Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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Well Hello Nise!
I haven't seen you post here in ages...unless we just keep missing one another. How are you doing? I miss seeing you here.
I'm crossing my fingers for you....
Hugs,
Candice
Hey Candice & Fearless!
Now that I’ve changed jobs and I actually have work to do during the day while I’m at work, the only time I can get on here is evenings and weekends...by that time the discussions are pretty much done so I mostly read to see what's going on with everyone but I hardly ever post...
As far as stepfamily life is concerned...I’m so over it! I've decided it's not worth the headaches it causes or the money spent on the Vodka trying to kill the headaches. My new "position" is "do whatever the hell you want to do and I'll decide how and most importantly IF I want to deal with it." I've drifted from ever involved step mom into "nanny" while the kids are here and when they leave, out of sight out of mind. I know it sounds bad but that's where I am right now and I’m fine with it!
Schedule changes, WHATEVER! If I’m here I’m here if I'm not, go get McDonalds! New psycho "step-dad" (aka mom's new screw) every couple of months...Hey, if your mom likes it I LOVE it (as long as he doesn't physically harm you)! Planning outings, parties, activities, ect...not doing it...too much hassle and more communication then I really care to have at this point in time. Rushing you around the city to attend the events your mom scheduled on your time here...not doing that either! If she wants you there she can provide a way for you or Daddy can take you but when it comes to disrupting MY schedule...NOT LIKELY!
I guess this is the result of 5 years of Drama...now i'm pretty much Drama free.
Nise, I'm right withyou
I feel exactly the same way. I was trying to be super step-mom when I arrived on the scene. Now 5 years later, I am hardly involved at all. I don't even go to school events anymore. I don't pick up or drop off the kids. These are my husbands kids. My newest approach is that they are human beings that deserve love and respect and I do my best to do that in my home when they are here. I try to make meals that they will like but many nights I leave the meal making to my DH when he has the kids. I don't tell them when to go to bed, to shower, nothing. I am sooo much happier this way. I don't say it out loud like this, but "not my kids...not my problem" Have a nice weekend!!!!
Nise!
So... does this mean that you're trying?!?!?!!!! WOO HOO!!! Good luck!
Man has the intelligence to change his life,
Sometimes, he just fails to use it...