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SD and the teen tude!

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Fri, 06/13/2014 - 1:23am

So my dear fulltime resident SD12 has suddenly started having a HORRID attitude with almost EVERY time she speaks to me. She is turning 13 in a few weeks. And after a relatively smooth last year she is now arguing and back talking to me with every breath. Like even ridiculous things. Her dad really does try to help but he is a restaurant manager and gone 60+ hours a week.
WHAT THE F DO I DO?!

"Everybody loves Raymond"

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Fri, 01/11/2013 - 9:55pm

I love this show, recently SO has been watching with me. And I think a few things have REALLY hit close to home with him. Especially when I'm cracking up and agreeing with some of the idiot, jerk moves the men on that show make. The other day we were watching and Raymond came to the realization that his wife could leave him and he rushes home to tell her, he is going to "start helping out around here more. And appreciating you more." I'm laughing and my SO says, "Yeah, I'm going to starting cleaning more, and making less messes, and making more money." I just smiled and didn't say a thing.

How to disengage without hurting SO.

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Fri, 11/09/2012 - 10:48am

After the last few months I HAVE to disengage. I am DONE. I am now being accused of ABUSE. I have never even raised my voice at the little brat let alone my hand. The problem is SO guilts me into doing everything because he "can't". He's working to keep us afloat. So I end up taking care of her the majority of the time and her mom is very unreliable. She is always cancelling the few times she does plan on taking her. I have raised this girl for 2 1/2 years, pouring my heart and soul and time, money, energy out on her. I have given her a place to live, her own room, and a great home life.

Crazy BM showing up anytime she feels like it.

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Thu, 11/08/2012 - 7:52pm

Crazy BM shows up at my house any time she feels like it. Is there anything I can do? She claims that since we were communicating at one time the police will laugh in my face if I try to have her removed. I've already been informed that she has no RIGHT to be at my house just because her daughter resides here. My question is, if there any thing I can do to makeher stop showing up at my door? Just because we WERE on good terms does that mean anything?

Bribe: Because that's how to parent....

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Wed, 11/07/2012 - 8:31pm

If he isn't centering every second of every moment around her he's bribing her and rewarding for mediocre behavior. I'm so friggin pissed off. He has said in front of her that she's his favorite (he has 4 children) and that its always going to be him and her. No wonder she knows she can treat me like shit and be a brat to anyone and everyone. Daddy always sides with her. Fml!!!! Her teachers can't stand her. She is a nightmare at school.

My new "favorite"...

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Mon, 10/01/2012 - 12:08pm

My SO has been doing GREAT with skids and BMs and life has been going better than ever. SO has been taking me into consideration a lot as far as how he deals with skids and BMs and most of the time he even will ask my opinion first.

Giving up!

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Fri, 09/21/2012 - 11:13am

I'm taking back anything I have said or done to try to help or correct SD11SD11
Starting with having SO put her back in diapers at night. Screw the drs and therapists. They don't live in the smell of piss. I don't care. She can have the diapers. If control is this important to her, I don't care that much. So is it ok if I at least tell her f friends she wears diapers at 11 1/2!? Ugh... I fought SO so hard to listen to the dr and counselors and now I'm taking everything back. After 2 years, I GIVE UP.

Oh yeah, that's why I hate when BM is involved.

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Submitted by newbiemommy on Mon, 09/17/2012 - 6:35pm

Whenever BM1 gets back in the picture SO acts like a completeASS.
He's constantly competing for SD11 favor. Ugh, it had been long enough that I had forgotten about this. It's queen SD11 time again. Great.... SO is gong to do everything he can to be the "favorite" parent. Maybe it's time for SO and mini wife to move out of my house and get their own place. Kill me now!

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