Hello, I titled this, "It's getting tough" when I should have titled it, "It's always been tough". I've been with my partner for 5 years now and all five of them were spent with his daughter (she was 6 then). Her BM is a recovering drug addict, who was in and out of jail for most of those years, with zero contact, which made me truly "mom".

Within the past two years, BM has "cleaned-up" enough to sue us for visitation, which she was granted 21 days a year. SD has asked BM to sign over rights in order for me to legally adopt her, but BM refuses.