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Financial conflict with the boyfriend

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Submitted by Mschmid02 on Mon, 07/26/2021 - 12:59am

My boyfriend is $30k in debt after hiring a lawyer. He hasn't really gained anything and even lost a visitation day with his son because that's how the divorce decree is written. Now he is paying for an out-of-network provider on top of making $700 payments on a loan. In total he is spending $900 on his kid. Meanwhile, I'm paying him $1000 in rent and paying for all the food. I'm at my wits end and I don't see a stable financial future with this man. I'll be looking into a lawyer regarding child support and child custody. 

Birthday gift

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Submitted by Mschmid02 on Mon, 04/26/2021 - 1:47pm

My boyfriend had his son build me a birdhouse for my birthday gift and excluded my own bio son in the process. I just wasn't that excited about it because it felt coerced by my boyfriend. We have only been together a year and I don't really expect his son to have a strong bond with me. My boyfriend wants me to take on the "mom" role with his son because he doesn't like the way his ex-wife parents. I'm not comfortable with it because I feel like I'm overstepping boundaries. I have my opinions on things, but I don't expect my boyfriend to go along with them when it comes to his child.

Soiled stepson

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Submitted by Mschmid02 on Mon, 03/08/2021 - 9:21pm

I'm currently 6 months pregnant with my boyfriends child. He hasn't gotten our son much except for a car seat, stroller and diapers. That's only after I had an argument with him about it. He recently got his tax return and basically spent it spoiling his 8 year old son. He got him a laptop which was probably worth a few hundred dollars, fish and a fish tank for about $600, a Nintendo Switch for $300 and opened a college savings account for him. I feel like he is more focused on his son since his divorce in August and uses money as a way to coddle his son after the divorce.

How do I handle the narcissistic ex-wife of b.f

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Submitted by Mschmid02 on Thu, 02/18/2021 - 1:39pm

I have been dating a guy for 10 months. He has an 8 year old and shares custody with bio mom who is the ex-wife. At first it seemed like the divorce was amicable and that they would remain civil for the sake of their son. However, as time went on she became vindictive, emotionally manipulative, and just down right resentful. My boyfriend allowed her to take everything in the divorce that involved money. This included the equity from the house that they bought together, the trust fund that she sold for money (unbeknown) to him, and a savings account of 20k that he didn't know about.