I don't understand WTH is going on. We pay for therapy (400.00 a month)for DH and his daughter. I have finally started going and BM has finally been phased out of the sessions and we were told by the therapist that he thought that SD was comfortable with us now that we could have normal visitation and take her out and have her for a whole day....but some how BM has told some sob story to the therapist and has got him wrapped around her little finger. The therapist agrees that we should have normal visitation with SD ASAP but BM has a major issue with that and now we have to be sensitive to her and her feelings. She is so hurt from things DH did to her 9 years ago she just can't let it go. When they were like 20 years old they got their own Apt and got engaged, DH had to work two jobs so he was never home. BM thought it would be a good idea to get pregnant and lied to DH. She confessed to DH sister in-law that she never changed her birth control patch because she was trying to get pregnant and had to trick DH because said he was to young to have kids. They continue to be off and on for a few years and go to counseling because she feels he abandoned her by working so much. Later on BM takes off and hides SD for 4 years. During that time DH and I get together and get married when we finally track down the BM we get a lawyer and to get visitation BM has the nerve to say the SD the birth father and wants a DNA test. Now BM claims they were not together at the time, so SD might not be his and demands a DNA test. Needless to say we agree to that since she might have been sleeping around and then the BM has the nerve to demand us to pay for the testing. Anyways DNA results came back and it is DH daughter as we thought, BM was just trying to be vicious and hurt him. To me saying that a child that you have loved for 9 years and have had to search for all over the US might not be your child just out of spite is the ultimate heart break. If anyone has the right to be hurt I think it is my DH. The therapist wouldn't even listen to DH's side of the story and just said we can't go tit for tat and she is hurt so we just have give her time to be ok with this. BM also has the nerve to say that she is confused on why we are even doing therapy or want to see SD and she is unsure of our motives and would only like him to be a weekend dad and then proceed to cancel the next session of therapy that we have...ughhhhhhhh..... So now we are right back to where we started, nowhere.