I NEED ADVICE MY STEPSON IS RUINING MY MERRIGE
I have 2 kids with my husband and we both have 1 kid from previous relationships so we have 4 all together. We had our oldest son when we were friends then we went our separate ways and I had a daughter with someone else but the relationship didn't work out ,and he had a son with someone else but that didn't work out eighter and then we decided to give us another chance and we had another boy together .my stepson was 3 when we got together and he used to throw a fit about sharing toys when he came to our house since he is an only don on his mom side I thought maybe he would grow out of it through out the years it's been hard my husband and I have been arguing about his behavior he is now 10 and I think he has anger issues he throws the Xbox controllers when his mad he chews on his headphones we have bought him like 11 headphones in just 1 year .he starts arguments with my kids he talk back to me all the time and now he is swearing in front of my youngest because he is allowed to do it at his mom's house and my husband only tells him to stop and to be good he doesn't take away his phone or the Xbox I told my husband today he needs to talk to his mother so we can be on the same page because he is a bad influence not even my oldest son disrespects me or talk to me that way and all my husband says is I'll talk to him we started arguing and I told him I was done I told my stepson today he is the reason why im leaving his dad and he started crying and his whole voice changed he is a complete different kid and he said does that mean i get my own room now he is selfish and bipolar my husband was crying but he also doesn't help I need advice cause I don't know what to do I've done everything to save our merrige but theirs only so much I can take
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No your DH is ruining your marriage
Your DH is not parenting his son. You should be focused on your DH issue. His kid - he needs to parent.
Your SS is a kid who has two parents who aren't doing their jobs.
For dogs sake. Why are they buying him 11 headsets when he destroys them? That's insane.
Will your DH go to parenting classes or counseling?
Based on what you've written, getting out is the only thing you can do.
Thank you
No my husband doesn't believe in counseling my step son was going to anger management because he is bad at school too but his mom stop taking him and my husband doesn't say anything to her.
I agree with everyone else.
I agree with everyone else. Never bring children into adults' problems. Children don't have the ability to cope with something like that being said to them, especially not one who's not even being parented right. I know it's frustrating, but you have to hold your SO accountable too. If he's not willing to change his parenting habits for you, he obviously doesn't respect you. Have you tried disengaging from SS? Don't pay attention when he throws tantrums, tell your kids not to engage with him, definitely don't be buying him anymore headphones, and if he makes messes, let your SO clean it up. Maybe that will open his eyes.
So I left my husband
I left my husband because I couldn't handle the stress and his son's attitude .after 3 days we had a talk I told him he wasn't been a good parent and that we need to be a team and my husband apologize to me because my mother in law and my brother in law both had similar experiences with my stepson to where they had to call his mom because he was yelling at my mother in law so he said he was going to start parenting and that there will be consequences for his bad behavior. He had a talk with his son and he admitted that he has been trying to break us up .I asked him why I haven't done anything to you his answer was I don't know .he said he was sorry and that he is going to try to work on his attitude but will see hopefully he does