I've been reading alot about disengagement but I currently can't do that. When ss12 comes round he causes arguments between my husband and I usually by shit stirring or being so disrespectful to me that the house ends up being tense.

Everytime he's here I end up locking myself in the bedroom to avoid confrontation or any form of encounter with him the kid is a brat! 

What makes it worse is his demon mum allows him to misbehave and regardless what DH says he only behaves when there are others around.

I have 2 kids with my husband and we both have 1 kid from previous relationships so we have 4 all together.

So..alright....where do I start? I have 3 kids from a previous marriage and now I have picked up 2 more since I've remarried. So in total my daughter-13 stepson-11 my son-7 stepson-7 and my son-5. For the most part we and they all get along great. The 2 seven year olds have been best friends since they met. I coach them in baseball and they are the all-stars and very athletic. The 11 and 5 year old both kinda do their thing but the 5 year old usually ends up with the 7 year olds acting crazy or hanging out with me (awesome dad *preved ).

i have been with bf from 4 yrs, from the start he told me all about his kids. His youngest kid and I use to be the closet. But I CAN NOT stand him. I don’t like being around him, talking to him or doing anything for him. He is a evil little brat. He needs to grow up. He is so disrespectful, never listens, causes fight with his siblingings. Everyone is the house try’s to avoid him. His dads think we are all picking on him or blames me for it. Everyone is just tried of his behavior. On this dads weekends I try to pick up extra workshifts or say I don’t feel good and stay in my room.