My SS10 lives with us full time since my DH has full custody. My SS's BM has been a disgusting mess since I met her when my SS was one. She loved pills, drinking and meth. Her parents have been the only thing holding onto any custody for that side of the family. They are amazing people and really good to my SS, and they just looooove my DH and I. They are the only reason my SS sees his mother.

When my SS returned from Christmas break visiting his BM, I could tell something was off. I have been trying to get to the bottom of what is bothering him since January! Well, I finally got it out of him, so he has been carrying this around for four months, poor lil guy He is a very sensitive, thoughtful, caring kid and lately he has been fighting with his friends, being edgy and giving me attitude and I was sick of it! The other night when my DH and I was arguing I let it slip that I didn't like my SS. I didn't mean that I don't like him, because I do like him- I LOVE him. I just didn't like the way he was treating me and making me feel.

I took him into my room last night to apologize for what I said, and to ask him what was up with the attitude lately. I could so tell he wanted to tell me, but he didn't want to stir the pot. He ended up admitting to me that he was jealous that his little brother had his mom here and he doesn't. He couldn't tell me last night, so I had him sleep on it and finished our talk this morning.

He finally admitted to me that he was mad at his DAD and not me. This whole time I thought he was mad at me, but he was mad at his dad. He was so upset because over winter break his BM told him that his dad had cheated on her. This coming from the pill popping meth addict who randomly got pregnant by my DH by showing up at his house in the middle of the night with some "almost raped" story and not telling him she HAD a boyfriend, lies on top of lies. Anyways, two sides of the story and whatever- I don't care! BUUUUT you don't tell your 10 year old that kind of SHIT! She's an idiot and just another example of why I wish my wonderful skids didn't have to be exposed to such idiocracy and low life. Sigh.

Anyways, we ended up having a really nice conversation and my SS was back to his wonderful self that he was before he left for winter break. I also took it as a learning opportunity to teach my kids that if you are committed to someone, then be fully committed to them! And then some more life lessons on top of that. Thanks BM for being a shitty loser and giving me the opportunity to be the awesome mom. Woohoo!!!

BM: -796,904 SM: A+++++ hehe