Skid will be here in a few days...
and I am NOT looking forward to it.
Mostly, she stays at the in-laws house, so she can be doted on, catered to, fed all the fast food her heart desires, and ran to and from summer camp.
This means she will spend a lot of her days with my FIL while MIL is at work, which his hilarious, because all he does is sleep, like literally falls asleep sitting up, if he doesn’t have a task to tend to. Even when he does, it’s difficult because of his habitual tardiness and sleepiness.
MIL has been trying her darnedest to charm me like nobody’s business these past few weeks, trying to be my BFF. My spidey senses tell me she’s going to try extra hard this summer to try and get me to commit to having skid around with me and the littles more days than not while DH is at work.
Yeah, no.
And that in itself will stirs up drama - like it always does.
MIL has been watching our littles every Saturday for a handful of hours while DH and I work our jobs, at her very adamant request. I’m thinking I’m going to drop those days, or go to every other Saturday, to limit my MIL’s presence while skid is her for the summer. I have a feeling that was her agenda in the first place. To get her foot in the door, so she can come and go as she pleases with our house key DH gave her (for Saturdays - and in which I have ALWAYS been vehemently against) with skid and sleepy dwarf in tow.
To be continued...
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It is not MILs responsibility
To watch the kids. Not your either, but not hers. If dad cannot handle, and no one is willing to help, he can get court order changes. But that may come back to bite him if SD feels she is not wanted.
You’re right, it’s not, but
You’re right, it’s not, but it’s what MIL wants for the most part. She’s a controlling gatekeeper, like BM.
This is nothing less than MIL trying to align the stars and planets so the summer plays out how she wants it to.
Perhaps you should refresh yourself with my in-law situation, and go back and read some of my blog entries. I am very low contact with my in-laws and would rather not engage with them, or have them around our children, at all if I could help it.
Is this what Granny asked for did dh asked?
I never agreed with bio parents who ask their aging parents to be full time care givers for their kids.
You said it yourself Grandpa, sleeps
They deserve to have a break. Grand parents have already already raised their kids. Its one thing to say HEY can grandchild sleep over for 1night--all together different to be a full time care giver for free.
PS I am a Granny by the way. LOVE LOVE LOVE our Grandchild but the parents must arrange all placement. WE do the fun stuff.
You said Granny was the gatekeeper....okkkkkk and your dh said OK mom you can babysit grandchild for free IFFFFF you really really have to. I'll agree mom.
Pleaseeee.That may work for younger readers, but not for this Granny.
I hear what you’re saying and
Do you not read my blog, Goodluck? That’s not what’s going on here at all. I do not depend on my in-laws for anything if I can help it - and it eats them alive. And actually, this is the first time, in the entire time since moving back to DH’s hometown (5 years, btw), that I’ve ‘allowed’ my in-laws to be trusted in spending time with our children - alone. These are the same people that have weaseled themselves into the CO visitation, getting BM to arrange visitation/flight itineraries with them - not DH.
I hear what you’re saying and agree, but my in-laws, specifically my MIL is the total opposite. She is forever inserting herself in other people’s lives. Especially when it comes to her role as a mother and grandmother.
I recently went back to work part time, initially only working hours/days that my DH would be home, so we wouldn’t require anyone else to watch our children and/or to pay for childcare. Obviously, my in-laws caught wind of the fact that I returned to work, and that’s when my MIL propositioned coming over to watch the kids so I could pick up another day. It was presented to both of us and I reluctantly agreed in hopes that it would only be temporary - which it will be.
I have always told my DH that his parents should be enjoying life. That they should find a hobby or travel. But no, they’re more interested in controlling the lives around them.