We found out that SS's football will begin practice either the last week of june or first week of July. This means that either A) BM only gets one two week extended visit with SS this summer or She keeps her extended two week on/off schedule with DH and drives him an hour each way to his practice Mon - Sat - which is not going to happen.

So, I will be the one to write BM a letter. It is usually best to tell her what is happening rather than offer her a choice - as the more open it is, it is just an invitation for her to fight.

The problem is that the way the schedule currently runs is that they do the exchange Fri to Fri during the summer. This works out when each parent had three two week extended visits, and then we would return to the EOWe schedule that we currently have. This means that my kids and SS are ALWAYS with us on the same weekends, which we prefer so we can do family things.

If we tell BM that she will have her two weeks, (Fri - Fri) plus HER weekend, I anticipate that she will fight (as she has in the past, stating that her time is up and it is not her weekend till the following weekend - just to be difficult.

SS also has practice on Saturdays - which will also cause an issue because she won't bring him to practice. So does SS skip practice or do we ask to change the schedule to Sat after practice?

Or, do we tell her to take every weekend during the summer for Sat - sun?

Or do we just tell her to keep the two week on/ off schedule and tell her to bring SS to practice Mon - Sat on her days?

Either way, it's going to be a problem and she'll fight, make it difficult, etc.

Heck, if it's anything like the last time he was in flag football, maybe we can just tell the coach "SS is at his mom's but don't worry. they are practicing". LOL. She seriously told us to tell the coach that.