in a long, long time. Because for the first time in almost 10 summers - no skid. And that means no...

- BM talk ("my mom "says/does/thinks/likes/dislikes"). Ditto in regards to BM's dude bro husband. This one hurts my heart for DH...

- bombardment of photos BM sends skid, daily, of her toddler half sibling being shown to our children. (Insert No One Cares spongebob meme here).

- skid getting into my personal things, like make-up and hair and nail products, while I'm at work. 

- shared meals with an almost 14-year-old picky ass eater.

Last night, while DH and I were sitting outside on the porch watching DD and DS run around in the yard, skid FaceTimed DH. 

I sat there, out of frame, and just listened. 

Skid lives in Southern California. They have an active stay-in-place order happening and school is out, obviously. Skid asked DH how summer visitation was going to go. Surprisingly, DH didn’t sugarcoat it much, though I’m sure it has a lot to do with the fact that I was sitting right there.

While skid was here for Christmas visitation, BM and her husband were paid a visit. A woman and a young child showed-up at their door, on Christmas Day, to spread the good news that he has a child. 

Apparently this child is 6 months older than BM’s child - putting this child being born a month or two before BM and her husband got married (BM was roughly 5 or 6 months pregnant when they tied the knot). 

This has been confirmed by several adults and skid. 

I hear BM’s husband is already starting to have his child every other weekend for visitation. 

In my most recent blog post I stated that DH slipped up and told me that a few months ago he found out that BM had put an income inquiry in with the state. 

DH currently pays $600/mo, which he pays directly to skid’s school, as that’s her monthly tuition cost. 

He finally opened the mail he received from our previous city, state (where BM and skid reside) that has been sitting there for days upon days. 

Per the papers, BM not only put in for a potential CS increase, but she is requesting an extra $350/mo for “medical expenses”.

Huh?