I am no stranger to step life prior to SO. My parents divorced when I was 8 so I was exposed. To different types of situations growing up.

My step mother passed away Tuesday.. years of drug abuse and poor health finally took its toll. She has been fairly sick for quite some time now.. My father and her had been together for 21 years but I never had to live with them.  My father and her both struggled for years with substance abuse issues etc etc. My step sister, step brother and my youngest brother had to deal with more then myself and my middle brother.

Anwways... My father has been clean for over a decade and basically became a caregiver for her while working 50+ hours a week. They are not old either 58/59 years old. 

My father and step brother have had a strained relationship for a long time and are not on speaking terms. My step siblings lived with my father more then I ever did. My brothers and I were never really close with them but never (IMO) had bad blood.

My younger brother and I planned on seeing her Wednesday but she passed Tuesday night. My father thought she would have more time. She was in hospice though. 

I text my step sister about about my condolences... no response. My brother's wife texted her too about hospice and her passing.. no response. My father sends the obituary.. no mention of the 3 of us or my brothers kids.

The 3 of us agreed that it had to do with the drama between my father and step brother. My step sister and dad are close so I don't really know the whole story. I don't think my father shared everything either.

I didn't mention anything to my father about us not being included. He is upset and honestly.. it's not that big of deal. She was always kind to us and we were nothing but nice so I don't know what the deal is. She did however really control my dad the past few years so there's that too. It's hard to explain 20 years of history in a few paragraphs lol. 

My step sister not texting back I find rude though. I never did anything to her. We always got along so I don't get it. 
 
They are not doing any services for her either.

In other news.

I went to TX for a friends wedding over Labor Day weekend. It was fantastic and it was so nice to get away from everyone. 

This is good though...

SS19 spotted me when I got home Sunday at 5pm (I left Thursday at 5am) and says "why do you have a suitcase?" Told him how I had been away for 4 days... he didn't notice.

SS17 called me Friday night asking me what was for dinner...? 
Told him I knew what I was eating (wedding was Friday) but not him.. it then clicked. SS17 did ask me when I got home how it was though. 

SD15 didn't ask me anything about my trip. I brought this up to SO how honestly it pissed me off.

I decided to scale back on SD. She's been really bitchy towards me and not even asking me how my trip was.. I mean seriously. I know it's her age but still.. SD can be emotionless and SO picks up on that.. we aren't sure what her problem has been..

So disengaged I go..