I went to work the other day with the knowledge that SS10 was going to his friends house at around 12. BM was going to pick up SD14, and hang out. I told SS10 that he needed to go with BM just in case something happens and his friend could not come get him. I worked all day. When I got home I noticed the door would not close right.
I talked to BF and he said that BM and SD17 hit SD14 and so SD14 ran inside the house and broke the doorjam. UGH.
At first a thrill came through me because I thought she had broke the doorjam at BM's house. But then I realized NO, It was at OUR house AGAIN! Everything always gets broken at our house. I wake up and look at our ghetto house and how it has fallen apart with the kids, and the cats, and the damn bunny who won't stop eating cords. And I just can't keep up with fixing everything. I try to keep it clean, and I give the kids chores and they are just so messy. I hate when they eat popcorn because there is popcorn all over the floor... or sunflower seeds. I sat on the couch yesterday, which is a rare thing, and just felt chip crumbs all over my hands. UGH. I just can't keep up. Working full time, practices, family, BF working two + hours out of town, its all too much.
Anyway... so turns out that BM just left SD14 here and took SS10 to his friends house. Then when SD14 called her to come get her she refused to pick up the phone. SD14 has been diagnosed with schizophrenia, and bi-polar, even though I have never seen the papers that stated such. I have actually researched a little of the symptoms of these diseases and they really don't seem to fit her. Possibly bi-polar, but not 100%. I do know that she needs some kind of help with her anger. So what ended up happening is BM came to get them, and SD14 had taken SS10's phone away from him. So SD17 got out of the car because SD14 would not give it back to him. SD17 and SD14 started fighting with each other. So BM got out of the car and started fighting with all three of them... which is turn lead to BM slapping SD14 and SD17 attacking SD14.
The whole thing is a big mess. Its so crazy. I don't want BM around here ever, all she does is get the kids all worked up and then leaves them. They have gotten into fights at her house and she will pile them in the car and drop them off at our house because she does not want her boyfriend to realize that her kids aren't perfect little angels. Why would anyone get in the middle of that??? Why wouldn't a grown woman just try to diffuse the situation instead of making it worse? I can just imagine them all out in the front yard screaming at each other like crazy people.
The thing with BM is she is not even allowed in our house. I tried to be friends with her. I used to let her come in the house when she came to get the kids. But I got tired of every time I pulled up from work there was her car and there she is inside my house with BF and kids, like they were never divorced, like I AM the OUTSIDER. It got to the point where I just could not take it anymore. She used to just walk in the house without even knocking. Once she even stood outside out bedroom door while BF lays in bed, the door open, and she just stands there peering in. I was like can i help you????? She has never lived in this house so it should not feel "normal" to her. Last year I got the attendance for SD14 and BM was taking her out of school all the time. BM is really good at taking the kids out of school for no reason. I felt like I was being lied to by SD14 because when I asked how was your day? she never said, it was good mom came to get me out of third hour because we wanted to hang out. She never said anything like that. So then I began thinking, what are they doing all these days when she gets them? Food is disappearing like crazy from our house, are they coming over here to hang out like best friends and eat all our food because they know my schedule. My schedule has been the same for three years.... UGH. Its all just too much. I'm getting off point here...
Point is I don't want BM around here AT ALL. She is just like another kid. She is immature, and can't handle her own kids. Oh well......