Good thoughts, I definitely get the teen age mind set. It's so hard when she is this really affectionate , engaged , thoughtful person when she is with us that I get blindsided when she acts "normal". Oh and you are right about being caught in the middle, if you read my bio you could see the hell of a place she is in. It's funny though that she values our opinions enough to break up with her boyfriend because we didn't approve even though her mother did (she's 14 bf was 18). I wonder too if her mother pushed her to go to prom because she thinks that she should be going out , SD is not the prom kind of girl. Still stings, but we get her next week and I plan on just relaying to her that we are interested in her life and that even a quick text will pacify us:). Thanks for all the quick support, I wish I would have found this place years ago, we have had some rough times dealing with SD crazy ass family. They hate us and make sure she knows it, we have been taking the high rough but it's so hard because I have a lot of pain and fury built up. Of course my bio was the tip of the iceberg, my husband has suffered at the hands of this wicked person since he had the unfortunate drunken encounter with her he stepped up at a young age to be a good father only to be told to go "f himself, keep your f-ing, money, you can't see your daughter" and bc he's not on the birth cert, and lived in a different state every lawyer he spoke with told him he had zero chance. So that's why she didn't come back into his life until she was 5 and mommy dearest has held the reigns tightly ever since. I hope that when she is 18 she can escape her mother's clutches and come live with us. It's a long shot when there is a very dysfunctional and overbearing cast of characters in SC nagging in her ear! Ok and bc I'm new I don't quite get all the abbreviations, lol so if I screw it up, just lmk. What is DD?