My SS9 and SD have panic attacks. Cause of the way there BG and BM respond and treat them. 
they have trouble communicating and have developed issues from this. I'm worried and don't know what to do other then just love them and hold them. BG and BM try to make me and DH think that they are saying they don't want to be with but really they are bullying and manipulating them. It's heartbreaking that they are having panic attacks and we are at a loose.