I have read many of the posts. I dont have it nearly as bad as some of you do. I am so sorry for all yall are going through. My step kids are respectful even if it has been against their will. I do feel unappreciated but they have never back talked me or said they hated me. I guess if my husband didnt back me up 100% it would have been different. Don't get me wrong, we have had it rough but I think we may make it through this and still be a family. I am hoping anyway. All of your stories have made me see that it could have been much worse. I dont think I could have handled it if it had been the way some of you having to live. I would have left a long time ago. In fact ours was much the opposite I think, I always communicated with the BM while my husband could have cared less if he ever spoke with her again. So, generally, whatever I said was the law. Which was good being that I am a control freak. I think much of my guilt over her death was because I was the link between her and her kids and her ex husband. When I cut the link, she was left out in the cold. Things could have been so much worse, but they definatley could have been a whole lot better. So my prayers are with all of you and I hope your marriages survive these difficult years.