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BM was CRAZY but her mom is just as crazy if not more so.....

Lulu's picture

Submitted by Lulu on Fri, 11/07/2008 - 5:09pm

If you have read my blog you know that BM committed suicide. I have been raising her 3 kids for 13 years and they are all 18 or older now. In fact 2 of their birthdays were last week (B18 and G19). We have not heard from BM's family since her death which has been 2 years in october. Their grandmother sent them each a card and written on the inside is a little passage about how much she misses them and loves them and if they want to call her, they can call her house number at XXX or her cell number at XXXX and then she states that the cell number is their mom's old number. The one she had when she died! Can you believe that? Why would you do that to your grandkids? What are they thinking? I hate those people!!!! The kids are trying to survive this horrible nightmare and then those idiots go and do that. I just dont know anymore........

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Submitted by melis070179 on Fri, 11/07/2008 - 5:51pm

They are probably just trying to hold on to every last bit of her they can. I'd probably be the same way if I lost one of my kids.

Just because you CAN give birth, doesn't mean you SHOULD

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Submitted by BMJen on Fri, 11/07/2008 - 6:02pm

I'm sure I'd be a nutcase. I would want to make sure my grandkids didn't forget thier mom. That's a terrible tragedy. I'm sorry to hear it. I didn't read your post about it because I'm new here. But I intend to look it up and see what happened.

I'm glad that her kids had a woman like you to raise them. I'm sure she, in heaven hopefully, thanks you as well.

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Submitted by BMJen on Fri, 11/07/2008 - 6:11pm

I read your previous posts. I'm so sorry to you. It must be really hard to raise these kids. Thank God you are there for them. Suicide is difficult no matter what, and the kids will idolize her no matter what. But you are thier mom and you know it.

The phone number, I can see why the parents did it. But I can also see why you are concerned about it. Don't worry, I'm sure this won't hurt them.

My hat is off to you. Here I sit bitching about family photos, BM's birthday, etc. And here you are going through this.

I'm so sorry.

(((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))

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Submitted by Lulu on Fri, 11/07/2008 - 9:27pm

I can understand her wanting to hang on to her daughter too, but I thought that was a little much to write that in a birthday card. I mean they have not talked to the kids in 1 1/2 years because they were acting so outrageous. I would think they would have gotten the message which was to keep the pshychotic behavior to a minimum when communicating with the kids. It seems that they will never learn.

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Submitted by Rags on Fri, 11/07/2008 - 11:01pm

grieved,suffered and morned as anyone would. What they did not do was fixate on his death but on his life. They also focused on my other brother and I and not on any attempt to sustain their grief.

I was eight at the time and it is the first memory I have of my dad crying. Just a memory from the ether of my aging memory.

It sounds that BioMaternalGrandMa has some more grief to deal with. Most people get through it in 2-4 years depending on how much they engage in the process. You probably have a couple more years of the weird stuff like preserving her cell phone number and reminding the Skids of her demise. BMGM would certainly be better served creating a relationship with her grandchildren as means of preserving her daughters memory than focusing on the grief.

Just my thoughts of course.

Good luck and best regards,