Someone Help me before I blow a gasket!!!
My bd (5) and bs (7) called SD tonight on the speaker phone. BM answered...didn't even say hello. Just said in a hateful tone...SD is in the shower and will call back, click. Of course we don't act like in our home so bd and bs asked why she was so mean.
So I emailed BM to ask that she conceal her hostility because it might be the kids calling not DH.
I tried to be nice about it but it was what it was...calling her out.
So she writes back to tell me that she has told me in the past not to email her again ever after we got into via email the last time. Well...I have emailed her since that. Once to tell her that I was sending SD a shirt that was left and she didn't have a problem with it then. OH>> and to top it all off I spelled conceal wrong in my quick email and she made a point to point it out to me!!!
Can she really keep me from emailing her when it was in regards to my own children and the way that she spoke to them??
I am going to find out. I really am so sick of her that I am ready to file a lawsuit against her for the way that she is acting. She tells DH that she REFUSES to talk to him...going so far as to telling him that she will no longer speak to him but that he could speak to her husband and then she turns around and calls my house being nice and SH*&Y asking hatefully for DH no matter who answers and then this!!!
I really feel like pressing it so that I can go to court and stand up for myself and my kids. She is so hateful and she means to be. I never ever treat her that way. But from now on...I just told DH...if SHE calles here and it isn't SD then I will tell her email it and hang up. I hate that she tries to dictate what is okay to do and does the opposite.
She also told me that I had no right to tell her how to talk to anyone...WHAT...THEY ARE MY KIDS!!!! MINOR CHILDREN HERE PEOPLE!!!!
They don't need to be privey to what goes on in dealings with her!1
Am I off my rocker here guys?
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Completely evil...
She should apologize, but we both know she won't. It will be easier to explain to your kids when they are older. I remember our son (13 now, but was 5 at the time) asked my husband, "you know that woman you were married to before? SDs mom? why did you divorce her?" My husband explained that they didn't see eye to eye and that when he saw black, she saw white. He then told me, "mom, I know why dad divorced SD's mom...she would never look him in the eye and if he saw a black truck or black house, she would say it was white! Isn't that weird mom?!" Anyway...my point is, it's too hard to explain now to your little ones why she is so mean, but soon you'll be able to! HUGS!
I lost it already!! :)
I called the local police where she lives. I wanted so badly to respond to her and yet at the same time I didn't want to get into trouble if she called them saying that I was harassing her. They said that it would be a civil matter and she would have to find an attorney that would take such a case first. Whew!!! I didn't ever curse at her or threaten her in any email so she doesn't have anything to use against me. You can't go around threatening someone that they are harassing you if that is not what is happening. I told her that if I receive unsolicited emails I just delete without reading and she was free to do the same. I also told her that she couldn't ever tell me not to judge something she says in ear shot of my children without consequences and also told her not to ever call my house again. If she wants to say something to DH then she can email him and if SD is unavailable then to just let it go to voice mail and we will gladly leave a message for SD to return our calls.
Still if it continues I do feel like seeking the courts for relief. This has to stop. She says we can or can't do something but does what ever in the world she wants to no matter what. The world just does not revolve around that evil you know what!!! Otis!!!
I truely think that she is so self absorbed that she thinks that I can be in trouble for emailing her when she asked me not to like a year ago in an argument. This is the INTERNET!!!! I googled it anyway...email harassment that is. It said that it would have to be stalking, threatening, sexual harassing, or sending dirty pictures to be a crime. I did nothing of the kind.
Thank you Step Talk because without you guys I would truely losemymind!!!
Wouldn't you just love...
to threaten her though? I've always dreamed of throwing a blanet over certain people in a dark alley and giving them a good old-fashioned butt-kicking!
Why does she feel a reason to be mean to your kids?
She really needs to examined, because it sounds like she has a screw loose. The kids don't need to be involved in the disfunction. It will only lead to unwarranted resentment towards SD and will cause more tension in the whole family unit. So, hhhmmm.... She can either be nice and curtious when she answ the phone, or when she calls your house or dont answ it and let the vm take it. If she uses a nice tone then call her back, if she uses a hateful tone, then 1. its recorded and two you don't have to call her back....
And they call me stepwitch.......
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!