My last post was about what I feel is an unfair balance between IH (idiot husband) and my contributions to our household. To recap, IH and I keep separate finances with IH contributing 2/3 to a "household" bank account and me contributing 1/3. I do 100% of the household chores and childcare for our 2 children together. When stepspawn lived with us, I was 100% responsible for his care as well.

Ok, in the 4 years I have been on this site (under 2 user names) I have noticed quite a few forum topics that start out with the title "am I being unreasonable". I figured I would start off with the definition of the word unreasonable, because I have often asked myself this. This vent is not about any particular post about being unreasonable, it is just something I have been accused of with disturbing frequency during my stint in step hell. "Not being guided by or based on good sense; beyond the limits of acceptability or fairness". Hmm

I want to assure everyone who was worried about stepspawn 17 riding the big, scary choo choo train all alone for 2.5 hours... he arrived safe and sound last Friday. Tis the season for miracles.

I know I shouldn't complain... I went from 24/7/365 steplife to seeing it every now and then, maybe twice a year.

Just like I changed calling "D"H to IH (idiot husband) on here... I am going to give stepspawn a new name... Fluffy. He reminds me of a spoiled little poofy pet of my IH's.

As if it isn't enough that the stepspawn has caused me such agony over the time he lived with us... DH wants him to come visit for Christmas. Of course, now that stepspawn has signed up for the Navy it is DH's 'last Christmas' with it. Cry me a river. I don't care, completely disengaged. I told DH that I will 1) not cook, clean or care for stepspawn in any way, shape or form. 2) my home will continue to run as usual, if stepspawn makes a mess then DH or stepspawn will clean it. 3) I will not interact with stepspawn in any way, shape or form.