Ok..Since i last was here a lot has happened. Me and now 16 daughter of BF are now talking and things seem to be fine. During a recent Psych Appt with BD she told counselor that she wishes to live with us when we buy a house. I agreed to this as long as she is not arguing with BM and it is because she wants to be with us and not as to hurt her BM. Since then BM and his 16yo have fought a few times and she has been kicked out of house 2 times now. They have reconciled after a few days and things seem fine currently. About 10 minutes ago BF gets call from 16 yo crying and has now gone to get her to talk things throu. We are putting an offer in for a home today. It could be potentially be a couple months till we finish the purchase and actually move in. We currently do not live together and I see him primarily when he is not with his girls, every other weekend and Thursday nights..That has started to change now that his 16yo is now speaking to me. This weekend she was SICK and stayed with her BM. there has been talk of 16yo living with BD till we purchase a home. He does not have room in his 2 bed apt. I do not have room in my house either. Am I being a w.... to say that she should remain with her mom til we all move in together? At this point this is the 3rd time this month BM and 16yo have argued and made up. If she moves in with him I will more then likely only see him every other weekend...due mostly to homework and such through the week. We are working through all the problems we have and now just want to relax and enjoy calmness..Am i being horrible in asking her to stay with BM until we all move in together?

Thanks for reading, you guys have kept me sane.