Hi,Im new here,and its the first time im talking about it,cause in my country this is still taboo subject.
Year and a half ago i met a wonderful man,and despite my avoiding,he won my heart.. divorced and 2 kids. Bravo me. And it was actually pretty good for 3 months,got along great with kids even though i saw some things i didnt agree with,till i got pregnant. Bravo me again. Then it all went to hell. I guess hormones kicked in and those things i didnt agree with went from 'not so bad' to 'i cant take this'. I didnt say a word to kids,just to their dad.
Story is..they married young,she was pregnant,kid got raised by gran and aunt,mom having fun,dad having fun,he got sick of it,she didnt,gran cooked and watched a kid,aunt gave money,cleaned and bought stuff,mom and dad spent money on parties and shopping.he said he had enough,and she (cause this situation was heaven for her;she didnt do a thing) suggested another baby will save the marriage,so they had one more kid.of course,everything stayed the same.5 yrs later she left him for 23 yo and got pregnant.
Now 16yo boy,never wrote a homework,aunt did,gran carries his schoolbag to his room, aunt makes his bed,he never did any of the house work,no schoolwork,nothing. Now almost 7yo boy, yells around house,only talks about fight,manipulates his dad by softly talking like a baby,and when dad is working he shouts,saying bad words to gran and aunt,and talks against my now 3 month old. He sits and just shouting,gran give me water im thirsty,gran runs and gives water,aunt my nose is running,aunt jumps and wipes his nose..i avoid him,yes,i do,cause i told their dad a million times if he wants a family to get along,there has to be some changes,cause i dont agree i should wipe 7yo a**,excuse my language.
Year gone,nothing changed,i even considered moving out with my son,i know that its not kids fault,but im sick of putting up with them,just hearing 7yo shout im mad and i cry cause im fed up.

16yo is full time here,7yo 2days here 2days his moms mom,cause his mom never takes him to her home,just visits at her moms apartment.

Theres much more,but i already wrote a lot,im sorry..and thank you