My step kids are 10 and 7, the oldest being female and the boy is the youngest.

I have been with their father for 5 years and we have a three year old girl together.

Back to the step kids: The first day in our home the girl said "you are my wicked step mother". The second weekend in my home she walked in the door pointing a finger at me telling me "You are not my mother". Needless to say that she had her mind made up for her from day one.