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Submitted by Lancer13 on Tue, 02/20/2024 - 10:41am

Background: SS is 16, came into his life at 5. Almost two months ago, he blew up saying he was done with me forever. Will not talk or see me, will only see my wife and our two toddlers outside the home. He, my wife, and in-laws blame me for this situation. Let me break this down into my general observations over the years:

 

MIL: Verbally abusive to my wife/SS' mom in front of SS while they all lived together his first five years. SS and MIL when visiting after would argue after a couple of days of being together, pretty consistently

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Stepson continues to be manipulative and toxic

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Submitted by Lancer13 on Thu, 02/15/2024 - 2:48pm

Following up on my previous entry, my wife reached out to my stepson today to see if he would want to come over, noting I have agreed to go to a friend's house for the day. He refused, saying he doesn't believe I won't show up to resolve things and will only meet her and my kids out somewhere. My wife told me she was very upset by this and continues to blame me for the situation. As a refresher, he put a boundary up of cutting me out of his life due to years of our negative relationship, me saying things, etc.

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SS Cut me out, wife leaning towards separation

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Submitted by Lancer13 on Tue, 01/09/2024 - 9:37am

I posted a couple of years ago here. My stepson is 16 and have been in his life since he was 5. It has been such a struggle because his father is a narcissist, manipulative, and has brainwashed him. He has always wanted to live with his dad full time since before I came into the picture, and as of two years ago changed from 50/50 to living there full time.

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Need advice on situation

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Submitted by Lancer13 on Sat, 04/17/2021 - 9:57pm

My step son is 13 and have been in his life since he was 5. He is with my wife and I biweekly and goes to his dads every other week. My relationship with my stepson has always been  very rocky. 

Ive come to realize I have a lot of resentment and anger from over the years. Years of him crying and having fits about every little thing. Being over dramatic constantly. Acting immature. Most of all, being ungrateful towards my wife and I but is with his father.