I've realized that by being on these boards and thinking back on the root of some of my own demons, I will likely have moments where SM could get "raked over the coals". The thing is, I'm starting to realize things with her are pretty darn good- especially reading how bad a lot of these other situations are. I really just have issues that I've wrestled with my whole life as a result of the TOTAL situation of my early life- and not because there was one parent that was the "bad guy" and responsible for it all.