for any internet stranger in my life. FIngers and  toes cross with all the good vibes being sent your way.

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Sending you all the positive vibes I can muster. You deserve a break. Hoping for a miracle for you.

Sending prayers. I'm sooo sorry for for this constant BS.

So this attorney had nothing prepared Friday for his Monday morning appearance??

What. An. Incompetent. Idiot.

and anything else I can muster up. Good vibes, healing energy, good thoughts....all of it. May the outcome be totally in your favor.  

I'm willing karma in your direction.  What a clusterf###.

20 min until you start.  Praying for miracles and blessings!

Once again, your attorney is an idiot. Who doesn't have a paper file prepared for court ahead of time? Did he ever get BM's tax records and the employer served?

I am thinking the most positive thoughts for you today.  You deserve to win big!

a little late to do it but sending all my good luck thoughts your way

Hoping for the best outcome!! 

An update!

I would seriously consider filing an official complaint about your attorney. I am so sorry.

20k in arrears or 20k in CS? In any case, this CS expense + your legal fees and her legal fees (if you are dealing with a judge like that lol) are a heavy financial burden...

This is why most ppl on CS will never do a review or modification because even tho BMs have had a change of income or circumstances, they know how to hide it very well and are skilled at providing the right accounts and putting money in hidden accounts. Not to mention, she will also claim all sorts of expenditures and barely has to provide proof - an eyewitness or supporting statement will be enough for the judge. If her mother shows up in court and says "I saw her spend xyz on food or activities or daycare for the children", its a wrap. Some of the more insisting judges will report the hearing until further evidence is provided, but even they will side to give her additional funds or at least keep it the same (no reduction in this world even if the BD is homeless or sick with an incurable disease on his death bed)

You should never return to court again unless you are looking to spend more money on her and on the incompetent attorney

The attorney already knew you wouldnt win and had a flimsy case, thats why he didnt bother printing any paperwork or preparing beforehand. The subpoena of accounts was a joke and BMs know how to play around

It we were to subpoena BM1 acct, we wouldnt find any substantial proof of income because she does OF and leaves her money sitting in cashapp/paypal/linktree account. As you know those accounts have no bearings and can be opened at the drop of a dime. You can leave money sitting there for months or years and use cashapp cards or paypal credit cards for transactions without ever having to use your legitimate bank account

BM2 lives off the kindness and generosity of others and has never really held a job due to drugs and alcohol. Her parents support her financially. She has started doing doordash and uber recently - again you can choose to withdraw your pay whenever you want and let it sit in your accounts permanently. On top of that, she probably does not make much (very lazy). She had a job between 2018 and 2020 as a part time receptionist in a real estate company (thanks to her mother and stepfather) but had to quit after she developed liver disease and nearly died due to her alcoholism during the pandemic

I feel that women should be very aware and cautious before getting wity someone who has CS and lazy exes. It has cost our household thousands of dollars....Other couples have the financial freedom to care only about their expenses and financial management but we have to constantly worry about CS, medical support, activities, clothes and shoes. Too bad that we shill money for everything especially for BM2....when we arent providing for her kids, it usually would be her parents....

Messy finances and if I had known I would have never gotten involved with someone who will forever be financially tied to other households

Chef started out with take home pay weekly of $60 after taxes and non arrears CS (he volunteered to overpay)  that was in 2004.   That went on until 2014 where his take home pay "increased" to $150 weekly (wouldn't even be able to pay for a studio apt at 2014 prices). This was after OSS accidentally "prematurely" alienated himself at age 18.5.  And the Girhippo was not going to report that OSS had actually moved in with his uncle so she could keep collecting on him.

Chef still has 5.5 months to go till the last of the three reach 21.  Although CS is now a quarter of what it was starting out, what did he get for all this money?

All 3 are mediocre at best, failed their way up and have been alienated for 15 yrs now.

F'NG A:

"I feel that women should be very aware and cautious before getting wity someone who has CS and lazy exes. It has cost our household thousands of dollars....Other couples have the financial freedom to care only about their expenses and financial management but we have to constantly worry about CS, medical support, activities, clothes and shoes."

But at least the torture is over.  

I know you are hurting but I'd hold off on taking SS off health insurance.   If it doesn't cost anything, leave it in place for the time being and reconsider when you have a bit of distance from this event.

I'm not surprised, but I am so sorry it happened.