I am so bitter...
SO and woke up this morning, after I get out of the shower he shows me a FB pic that SS is tagged in. It's BM with her 3 kids (only 1 is SO's) piled on the floor saying "starting off Christmas break right". Yeah B!tch. You stay home as we are up and out the door by 6:30 am everyday to WORK. Remember work?? It's that thing you are going to have to do in 3 months when Alimony is up }:)
My nerves are on end. Court is today. I can't even focus on work. SO is a wreck, he is so happy to have older SS17 out with us, but not having younger SS13 is breaking his heart... Mine too. I am so blessed to have such great future skids. We just need this custody stuff worked out (fingers crossed that the answers will fall in place today), and the 5 year divorce can finally be over! We can get married and have our lives no longer held hostage by BM. Say a little prayer, or send a good vibe or whatever you believe in!
Thank you!!
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Good luck with everything.
Good luck with everything.
Good luck today! As an aside,
Good luck today!
As an aside, it floors me that employment is not mandatory when awarding primary custody to a parent. If you want the kids full-time, you have to work unless you can prove that you yourself have assets that can sustain full-time custody. I get so tired of these parents who survive off CS and alimony - or just CS and expect the NCP to pay extra "for the kids".
/rant
That is going to be part of
That is going to be part of our argument for full custody. No job, no way to support herself, let alone SS.
No, not the only argument but
No, not the only argument but a piece of the puzzle.
I heard a podcast a few
I heard a podcast a few months ago that judges, especially female ones, are less and less supportive of women who want to stay home because they themselves have had to put their own children into daycare while they went to school and worked. They have no empathy for women who want to be stay at home moms while divorced. I know one woman who was shocked to be told by a judge that he was not going to allow her not to work, and he gave her a period of time to get a job.
Good luck today....I hate knowing that our BM has never worked, and yet has managed to have nice accommodations than we have for many years through getting all her support from others.
Judge in our case told BM to
Judge in our case told BM to get a job as well. She just found another sucker to marry her and lived off him and cs. Her current, and third husband told her he wasn't funding her lifestyle anymore so she did get a job and has been there for over a year. It's a miracle!
Oh boy this is my BM as well
Oh boy this is my BM as well unfortunately. It makes me so resentful that we send her a check every month so she can sit home pretending to be a SAHM (all of her kids are in school while she stays at home). Meanwhile my hands are so dry and cracked from work and being out in the cold they bleed. Makes me resent my husband too.
It is going to take a horde
It is going to take a horde of StepMoms as WOMEN to rise up against the system that allows GUBMs who are from "first families" to take advantage of the system by being stay-in-bed Moms masquerading as MOTYs or work as minimally as possible (waitress jobs, bartending, etc.) to hide their tip money so that CS/Alimony is through the roof.
The Girhippo QUIT her job as CPS supervisor (ironic that "MOTY" is a CPS worker/she's the most slackass "mother" I've ever met)to become a WAITRESS at a CASINO whilst StepDaddyBigBucks continues to be a "yes ma'am" beta male ATM on legs and keep on earning at his six figure job. Meantime Chef is cranking out $185 a week to the Girhippo (and he officially makes $12 an hour, 16 hours a week)
The funny thing is the skids spend most of their life at OTHER PEOPLE'S houses; eating THEM out of house and home!!