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Fathers day- help!

June's picture

Submitted by June on Thu, 06/09/2011 - 8:26pm

So for fathers day in the past I would talk to the skids and ask if they had ideas for gifts for dad, then I would go get the gift or have them come with me to pick something out. I would also get a cake for DH or go out to dinner with him and the skids ( and pay for everything ). Well now one skid is almost 18, drives and has a well paying job, so I'm not going to remind him that he needs to get a gift or buy one for him. However the other skid is 14 and as luck would have it, we don't get the kids at all fathersday weekend. I do have SS14 all this weekend thou- should I go our with him to get a gift? Or should I leave it up to him to ask about getting a gift? I'm just not sure what to do bc mothers day was not even acknowledged to me and everytime I do all this for DH he knows it's me behind all of it and not really the kids so I'm just not sure when to let them do it on their own. I also don't want DH to feel bad if nobody does anything. Any advise?

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twopines's picture

Submitted by twopines on Thu, 06/09/2011 - 8:38pm

If you want to acknowledge DH then I'd still do the cake or dinner or whatever you want to do. I'd leave it up to SS14 to ask for your help if he needs/wants it.

Totalybogus's picture

Submitted by Totalybogus on Thu, 06/09/2011 - 8:45pm

I agree. You should acknowledge what a wonderful father he is from your point of view. The kids are old enough to acknowledge it however they wish on their own. If they forget, its on them. Do your own thing.

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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Thu, 06/09/2011 - 9:20pm

aww...id feel guilt if i didnt at least ask the kids if they were playing on doing something. Im sure at 14, he feels awkward enough about asking you for anything- I'd bring up the fact that fathers day is coming and ask him if he is planning on getting anything for H...if he says id like to, then offer to take him the day of. if he flat out says no- you dont have to push it and just go through with your dinner plans as is.