Well, I left at this time last year and my stupid self went back, but in just 30 days I will be in my own place with my BD13, away from my emotionally/financially abusive H, away from the 12yo mini-wife, and away from the other 3 skid marks(one stays away on his own

I ended up leaving my DH for about 5 months. He begged me to come back, so eventually I did. Things are SO much different now. We're still in counseling, but it's working out.
I was on decent terms with SD12 when I left, or so I thought, but when me and BD13 came back, SD threw a fit!!!
DH finally told her that his marriage to me is more important than her whims and wishes.

This blended family business really bites. I've known that all along. The BM is jealous, always driving by my house, always inviting "us"(yeah, right-like I'm going to pretend I like her and be around her all fake. No, I'm not mature enough for that-or too mature depending on how you look at it), to "ENENTS" that BM "INVENTS". SD12 is a thorn in my side, but I have been doing some real soul searching lately.

House rules that I made to make my life a little easier(because the housework is mine) are ignored by dh and SD. Blatently.

Background, back in May, Dh and I had a bitter 3 day fight because BM wanted to ride to prison(1.5 hours away) with my dh to pick up their loser son. ANYONE else was forbidden to ride with them. *Other annoyances/instusive/boundaryless occurrances: almost daily phone calls for the year SS was in the slammer, 15-20 minute chats in my driveway during SD11's pick ups and drop offs. Anyway DH did not ride with the hag, who lost her live-in boyfriend the same time as SS went to prison. But 1 week later, he spent 8,5 hours with BM SS SD and all BMs family and some of SS friends. Without me.