#1 - I know I have it easier than a lot of you because I do not have my skid with us very often (3x a year) because of the distance, but it still upsets the household. I know I probably shouldn’t complain since its “just a month” or “just two weeks”, but when our day-to-day lives don’t include a rude 10 year old, it makes it hard to adjust, it upsets the household and while she is here I have all the same problems you all have (won’t eat my food, won’t take care of her personal hygiene, the passive aggressive disrespect of me, ignoring me). Even if we start to make some progress, it all is lost by the next time she comes. I can’t/won't spend two weeks in my bedroom hiding, and my town does not have enough shopping to be gone every evening Can anyone else relate, or have any ideas on how I can cope?

#2 – My Skids and DH don’t have a close relationship, partly because of the distance and partly because of PAS (in my opinion), the older two have aged out of the CO and who knows if we will ever see them again. We don’t hear from them unless they want money or something. DH never receives a birthday card, Fathers Day card or anything for Christmas, the most would be a text. When the SD10 comes for Christmas, do I take her shopping to get something for DH, or do I just let it go? Do you all take your Skids shopping for your SO??