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Submitted by iwannagoback on Sun, 10/24/2010 - 6:28am

the knock on the door tomorrow at 9AM when SS5 is dropped off.
dealing with SS5 Stepdad.
the 10 minutes it takes for SS5 to climb into car & put on seatbelt (& another 10 minutes to climb out.)
the eventual inevitable whine "Iiimmmmmm Huuuuunnnnnnggggggrrryyyyyyyyy......."
the crying that will start when SS5 cannot figure out how to turn on TV/change channel/etc.
BS9's reaction when he realizes it is a SS5 day.
BS9's frustration when SS5 insists on following him everywhere, every minute - even into the bathroom.
SS5's eventual meltdown at the dinner table.
SS5's announcing "I'M DONE" when he finishes eating - 45 minutes to 2 hours after everyone else is done.
SS5's grumpy, frowning face when he wakes up in the AM.
SS5's inevitable meltdown when asked to get dressed quickly.
SS5 ingoring my request to throw away pee-filled pull-up.
the 45 minute drive (each way) to get rid of him on Wednesday AM, that I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO MAKE!!!!
the feeling of my self-esteem plummeting as I realize the depths of my dislike, disgust & resentment towards SS5.

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Submitted by starfish on Sun, 10/24/2010 - 10:21am

5? my ss10.5 still wears a diaper and pees in it every night, so i can totally feel your pain!

both skids lie, sd13.5 steals, too.

i dread their visits, too.

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Submitted by iwannagoback on Sun, 10/24/2010 - 12:38pm

I believe we are in a similar position whereas I have pointed out that SS5, who does not know ABCs, pees every night, takes no initiative to be independent (dressing & feeding himself is an ordeal that often leads to crying,) etc, is developmentally delayed and emotionally immature... but DH prefers to be an ostrich because he is a lazy parent, and won't discuss anything with BM due to an extremely adversarial relationship.

BM finally started SS5 in therapy (when he was 4 1/2) because she was PG, and he woke up crying every night & disturbed her (& at my house, DH, me & MY KIDS!) sleep.

DH has only gone to 1 session, and it was disasterous. I am being pressured to go to the session next month, and I am trying to avoid it at all costs. I would have to fake an interest in SS5 that is just not there, and if anything goes "wrong" (even if it has nothing to do with me) DH would blame me - because that is his MO.

I just can't win, which is why I know my days are numbered.