No. My stepkids are not invloved in any activities. They look down on that kind of thing and think it's "stupid".

At least your stepkids are normal and like doing normal kid things.

I only participate to the extent I wan to. I used to want to do it all, and quickly got put in my place. Ss10 plays football and baseball, and bm is über involved. I asked ONCE if I could help with anything for the team and it almost ended in a fist fight at the balfield, be ause that is Her child and they don't need my help. Okey dokey. Now I only go when I want, nothing more. Sd13 lives with us so I am a bit more involved. Again I tried to be a sponsor, etc, and sd made me look like an asshole. She wouldn't tell me when events were Neil the lat second, wouldn't tell me until after school that she had rehearsal, etc. I ended up showi g up to events without what I promised to bring, not k wing I needed to help watch kids because I never got the flyer, etc. I now will not take her to anything without 24 hours notice, and don't volunteer (though I don't think they would ask me again anyway). She didn't want me involved, so sh sabatoged me! Do what you want to do, don't do what you don't! Less having to see bm, and less headache!

No.

I have 2 bios, I have them signed into 1 activity each. The skids joined the last sport my bios were in, so I was there because my bios were there. Now my bios are each in 1 other activity that doesn't include the skids. DH wants me to sign up SS7 to something - I told him to talk to BM. BM and DH share 50-50 - I do not need to run around his kid for him. SD12 doesn't want to do anything so that is easy enough.

Its up to BM and DH to commit to take their kids to activities, not my responsibilty. Noone else takes my bios anywhere, - I do, me, by myself, in fact, EOFriday DH calls me at 630 when he gets home from work asking where I am. I tell him EOFriday that I am with the bios at their gym class. Oh yeah he says. OH YEAH - for 6 times in a row - he doesnt' even know when my bios schedule is when they are with us 80% of the time - why should I give a rats ass if he wants his kid in something - he is more than welcome to step up, sign them up and drive them there - so is BM.

The skids have 2 parents that don't want to do shit for them, that isn't my problem,

Yes very, very, very involved. From the time they were 4-5 they have been in sports and now college athletes. From club soccer, football, marching band, basketball, powerlifting, to track. From August till May, every weekend something is going on.

I also Coach, Manage and run booster clubs and concessions stands.

I do it for my bio son as I did my two stepsons. It is our belief that extra curriculars keep kids out of trouble, in shape, and focused. Got to keep them running, they will be too tired to run the streets.

I'm not. I don't even know what activities she's in as her mother doesn't really tell us when it's going on. My stepdaughter doesn't talk about it either so I assume I'm not missing much.

Even if I did know, it's not worth dealing with the BM.

very little, i might go to two or three events a year for skid i have my own kids involved in lots of activities and i only have so much time. my DH goes to my kids games about the same to he might go to three games a year. it worked out rather nice i figure since my DH is the one who set the bar real low, since my kid is a lot older then his kid he rarely went to my kids funtions and when he kid hit middle school and started lots of activities i figure why change and i do the same thing he does. one day DH said to me "i see what you mean it sucks going alone to all the activites and hanging out with all the parents who are together" i said, "don't worry honey you will get used to it!" he then said i really should go to more of your sons games and i said dont worry about it now i am used to it and really it's ok. his kid just starting middle school sports my kid is a junior in high school to little to late now. i will only go to a couple things a year for his kid just like he did me all the past years.

I'm as involved as I can be. The closer DH gets to being primary breadwinner the closer I get to being able to be SAHM for awhile with my two daughters. And that is totally worth being SS's part-time SAHM as well.

Your DH doesn't run your bios to their sports activities, get involved in them, etc. Right? So, of course you shouldn't be expected to do that for skid. My skid doesn't do any extracurriculars, but if he did, i'd take him, or at least go watch. He lives with me 24/7 and while i'm not a fan of his, my DH goes to all my son's sports. To stay fair, i'd go to skids too.

Not anymore...
From time SS was 5 until 8, he was playing Soccer, Basketball, Tball, Football. He hates every single sport, doesn't want to run, play or sweat, just like your SS. He would be sitting on sidelines, cross legged in the grass picking flowers or something. Team would always be waiting on him to get up when it's time for him to play. He sucked as a result of his lack of initiative and then is a Sore Loser.

BM would sign him up for all of this stuff -without conferring with DH regarding availability, schedules, etc and yet DH would be required to pay all the fees, then adjust his & my schedules to haul SS around for practices and games. BM NEVER did practices--picked him up from them sometimes but she'd always be so late it was easier for us to take him home too unless he was with us that night. Usually he'd end up with us all night b/c somehow she found better things to do while we sat at practices and watched the boy pick flowers. She would show up at most Games though so she could look like Mommy of the Year and yell at coaches and kids as if she gave a damn. Dumbass Cow.

I'd complain to DH that if she's doing this, she needs to at least talk to him first b/c she was signing him up for teams that were far away from the house so it'd be a frantic rip and run after work to get him from AfterSchool, go by her house and get his crap out of the garage only to see she's forgotten to pack something which means we had to go re-buy it, then get to wherever practice was, twice a week plus the Game, every week. It was ridiculous! I told him I wasn't doing it anymore b/c I'd often do it when he was stuck working. I think Sports are important for kids and he's a lazy fat kid and needed this so I did it but I hated it. My daughter played Bball from age 4 to 18 & got a scholarship to school so it really does help to be dedicated. Yet this boy wasn't dedicated, was happy not to do it. He's growing into a knock-kneed and oaf'ish child now, runs & walks shoulders slumped forward, torso forward -very clutzy--sports & running are not his thing but we thought it'd help him with his body control, posture, etc. Anyway, DH's job of 25 years transferred us 4 hrs away last April and so we couldn't be involved anymore. We'd catch weekend games if we could.

Wouldn't you know it--when BM had to be responsible for hauling him around, she stopped signing him up for anything. She claims it was because she was busy but it's because she is lazy and didn't want to be bothered. We'd finally gotten him halfway decent as far as involvement in Soccer after 4 seasons and she just stopped it all. Now she's pregnant and didn't sign him up this summer because she's going to have baby next Month. DH asked her about it again yesterday--if she planned to sign him up in Fall and she said "If you want him to play, you need to come home and see to it". Oh that BIOTCH! Call his real Fcking Daddy you piece of sh*t if you want someone around! UGh. Her new Husband does NOTHING for SS. So she purchased SS a PC instead so now he can be out of her hair, relegated to his room doing singular activities by himself instead of involved in exercise and team-building... Great.

I used to be at everything my DH went to, from marching band, concerts, volleyball, you name it. I've recently started the dissengagement process so I don't plan to be around much this school year. I'm sure it won't matter to SD16 since I seem to be the root of all evil these days!