So I went ahead and went to graduation only to keep peace with husband. Well....BIG mistake on my part!!
After it was over we walked out to wait for them to come out...she walked up to him and gave him a brief hug, walked right by me and gave my mom a brief hug and went and stood back over with her BF. My MIL and SIL walk up and SD hugs all of them and stands with them and BF talking while my mom, myself and my husband are standing off to the side. I look at them both and say "I've had enough I'm ready to go". Mind you I had gotten off work at 7 that morning and was supposed to be on my way to Florida with my mom for vacation!!
Anyway....MIL came over and said something to husband and he told her he wasn't happy right now. I'm thinking great he's mad at me becuz I said I was ready to go. He proceeds to tell her that SD is ignoring all of us and he isn't happy. I guess MIL says something to SD becuz she came over to him and said let's take a picture. I don't know what was said but he turned to her and started saying something...she hid her face from me and started crying...I did hear her say "this is my day". He turns to me and says let's go.
Walking to the car I said "this is exactly why I didn't want to freakin come!"
So we get home and everyone starts coming over for the cookout. I go straight to my room to change and finish packing. I come out and she and the BF are in the dining room talking with MIL, SIL, niece and my son and his GF. I go outside where my mom, husband and FIL and his wife are. I figured it was time to make it a bottoms up kinda night!
They are all inside laughing and giggling and opening gifts and cards without letting any of us know this is going on. Everybody eats and talks a lil more. SD comes out and hugs my mom and tells her bye and says she's leaving and turns around and goes inside and leaves. I look at husband and he throws his hands up. I am furious by this point and say "that is effin BS".
Shortly after everyone else left.
She left without us giving her our card...hate it for her!!!
Neither of us have heard a word from her since then. She has talked to my son and his gf and I found out she has been to the house twice but doesn't let us know she is here or has been here.

I am so pissed off. I told husband it is time to shut her phone off and change the locks on the house. I am not going to continue paying her phone when she doesn't use it to keep in touch with us or atleast him, and she is not going to come and go in my house! He said he agreed but...of course he has done nothing about either situation! I also told him I was going to take her off of my health insurance. He said no we can't leave her hanging like that. Well she managed with Medicaid before I put her on mine so she can manage again. Why shud I have to pay an additional $200 a month to keep her insured when she is treating us like shit!!!
She has such a big problem with me then she needs nothing from me!!

Needless to say he and I have not seen eye to eye on most of these issues. He says he is going to talk to her about how she's acting and the way she's treating us and the things she said to me. Well it's been a month and nothing has been said. He says "why does it have to be on a timeline and why does something have to be said right now?" Well the longer it goes on the longer she thinks she's done nothing wrong and the more distant the relationship gets and the angrier I get.

Had either of my boys acted the way she has acted they wudnt be walking today!! To my knowledge neither of them have ever been disrespectful to husband and if I ever found out it wud be the last time they were disrespectful to anyone and they know it!!!

I am just so sick of her!!! He has seen with his own eyes how she is treating us but still does or says nothing!!! It enrages me!!!