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BM does not want to drive SS8 across town for football or boyscouts

weekendstress's picture

My husband and I are a single income family. I am a stay at home mom to my bio kids while I finish my degree. The BM of my SS8 also stays home with her new child. We have my SS Friday after school through Monday before school, essentially 50/50. We wanted to enroll him in football and boyscouts and BM says not unless its on her side of town because she can't afford to drive him to praactice games or meetings becuz she is a "single income family" BTW she does get paid plenty of child support. we agreed on getting a boyscout troop halfway, but then she went behind our backs and signed him up right by her house which meets on Tuesday nights which is a football practice night which by the way we already paid for. She refuses to take him to football practice becuz its on the night of his boyscouts the one she signed him up for....we are a single income family and still make sacrafices whether it be time or money just so he can have and experience and becuz u can't spend 4 dollars and 2 hours of your day to take him to practtice. Your soooo selfish and only hurting your son.

Oi Vey's picture

The simplest way to avoid this issue is to not sign the child up for activities that take place on the other parent's time.
Tuesday night is Boy Scouts? She signed him up by her house. That makes sense to me.
Did she agree to football on her nights?

neveragain's picture

I agree with Oi Vey. She gets to call the shots on her time. Why would she put the child in scouts near you? Why do you sign them up for things if you aren't going to be the one transporting. No IVY from me.

weekendstress's picture

It shouldn't be about her nights or our nights its about him and activities he wants to do, regardless of what nights they happen to fall on. I could pose the same question...why would we put him in scouts or football near her? Besides she could care less about pputting him in extra cirricular activities to begin. I guess I did not really understand what either reply was getting at. BTW its just not on Tuesday nights...the boyscouts and football have meetings and practices on weekdays and weekends....so what he can't go to some of the meetings and games becuz its on her nnights again it should be about him not her just cause she doest wanna drive him