Well SS has been gone for a short time and it is on one hand feeling of peace with some sadness. I am realizing how much he was affecting everyone's comfort level and happiness in our home because of his own unhappiness. Really sad because he we know he is overall an unhappy person so hopefully this is a tremendous growth opportunity for him. Some personalities can't handle divorce. Why do 3 out of 4 kids handle the change and one kid not? Comes down to personality.

It has been 11 days since the incident with my step-son. This is what has occurred since then. No counceling appointment has been booked for him. His dad had one conversation with him supposedly laying down the law and he came back to our house last night not acting too worried about getting the boot for bad behavior.

Families are disfunctional because of adults running the household not having any balls to act like parents. Mother's that keep saying "oh, poor baby" "you poor victim" and Dad's that tower over the kids but allow the kid to have the upper hand.

Hi,
I got a ton of messages and I am so thankful for the support. I made the mistake of sharing my issue with a couple people at work and I find people's reaction to the situation all about the kid. So basically "screw them". Close my mouth and do what needs to be done for survival of the other 5 members of the household. Hello? (big sarcastic one) does anyone not SEE plain and simple for the last couple years how much I have thought over and over - he is a kid - he is my husband's son - I have to help solve this and make it better!!!

I wish I could say that anything I have done the past 4 years have made a difference, but, with my step son they haven't. I really really want him to move out. However, this is the deal. He HATES me ever since I moved in. I am the deer in the headlights. The person that came into his life with no hidden agendas and met his father under appropriate circumstances. His mother met his step-dad thru adultery and lying and deceit. I am not looking to put a scarlet A on his mom. I moved into this house thinking let's all move on and make this a positive situation.