I wish I could say that anything I have done the past 4 years have made a difference, but, with my step son they haven't. I really really want him to move out. However, this is the deal. He HATES me ever since I moved in. I am the deer in the headlights. The person that came into his life with no hidden agendas and met his father under appropriate circumstances. His mother met his step-dad thru adultery and lying and deceit. I am not looking to put a scarlet A on his mom. I moved into this house thinking let's all move on and make this a positive situation. I can think that all I want, but, fact is, the biological mom is screwed up and has done everything she can to alienate and emotionally destroy her son. I wanted my step-son to like me. But like she said "I don't know why he has a target on your back". Nice. I am glad I guess it is not deer hunting season. I gave up caring under the direction of my therapist that told me his mom won't allow him to care about me and accept me and so don't push it. So I don't. April 2011 after 6 months I moved here a lovely gift was put on both my pedicure stick and pumus stone. It as pretty awful. My curling iron was also cut. I moved on and rationalized that this could not be the actions of my step-son. Well here I am 2 years later and yes, this morning, my new pedicure stick has been dipped into a substance that mainly mentally ill people in psycho wards are familiar with. I have been going to a therapist that is extremely talented with teens for about 2 years now. I listen to what he guides me to do. Now I have reached the point where I realize that my step-son is a disturbed almost 16 year old that is targeting me with all the anger he feels from his divorce, his parents incompetencies. He resents me because I pay attention to my two children and they are thriving and he is completely miserable. He is miserable in both houses he shares 50:50 custody with and has been prompted by his mother and grandmother that hating me is okay. I am the blame for all the unhappiness in his life. The lady who bought him cookbooks cause he said he liked cooking and he thanked me. A month later he hated my cookbooks and his mother feeling clearly threatened sent recipes of her own to cook at our house. A mother who is a "SWINGER" and "adultress" and a woman who slept with her best friend's husband. Two families that vacationed together and the level of disrespect has been just awful and no court in the world would get it or see it. I never want to punish for what I judge as moral or not. This is about how do we treat the kids after? Who do we allow them to love and respect? The alienation will never be proven. The secrets never exposed or told. BUT, a very sad and twisted and miserable young man has been told it is okay to target, hate and be nasty to the one person in his life that actually has the maturity to care. The woman that worked with troubled teens for 2 years. The same young man that when he is unhappy, miserable decides to take my belongings and literally put poop on them. I want him to move out but the problem is his mother doesn't really want him full-time. This is absolutely the most ridiculous thing I have ever seen and sadly I do think he is mentally ill. I see the signs. I see the eating disorders, upset stomachs, bathroom issues, locking himself in his room......and I can't do a damn thing about it. We are having my pedicure stick tested somehow & I guess then we have to ask him to move out. Just awful & I really feel that sometimes in life we are put in NO WIN situations. NO WIN!!!! The amount of hatred this young man has directed at me is just awful - the hatred toward me - my son - my friends - just awful. Thank you for listening. I really want him to move out and with mom and if the courts reward the bioligcal money with more money than so be it. Why not? She doesn't even buy the kid a pair of socks or underwear with the $1500 a month she gets now for 50% custoday. Why not give her more to spend on going out to party & payment to be a Honey BOO BOO while my husband and I both work full time supporting 4 kids. Life is not fair.