First Time on the Site --- Vacation without the Step-Son?
I have a 10 year old step-son who lives in another state. We (his Dad and I) usually go visit him by making the drive to his state and staying the weekend in a hotel with him, but he does come to our house to visit for the holidays and summer.
My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years, but we've been together for 7 years. We have 2 children together (my only biological children) that are 21 months and 10 months.
We are planning a trip to Disney World next year to take my biological kids, and he keeps asking me am I sure that I don't want to take my step-son. We have taken my step-son to Disney World twice before we had our own children.
Since our two children are so young, we will be sticking to the smaller rides and catering to their age group. I also like to take vacations with just my kids ... Is this unreasonable to feel like this and not want the step-son to go?
Not at all. Especially since
Not at all. Especially since you have already taken him twice. You are entitled to time with your family. Let his mother take him if he really wants to go again.
There is nothing wrong with
There is nothing wrong with explaining that you have already taken him 2 times and this time it wouldn't be fun for him since it will be all about the younger ones. For the record I know families that have taken one or 2 of their own kids and not at the same time.
I have 3 biological kids with
I have 3 biological kids with my hubby- 5yrs, 4yrs and 9mths. My ss is 13. I undertand about wanting ime with just the bios. I completely agree with you especially since you have taken him twice. If your dh asks again, tell him that yes you are sure. His son gets to do things with his bio mom and her side of the family and your bio kids get to do things with their mom. I don't think it's fair to HAVE to do everything with the steps. It's ok to do things with just bios. We have taken our kids on 3 trips without ss. The first two were when ss wasn't visiting. The third was when it wasn't his weekend to visit. Also explain to your dh that ss will be bored being in the 'kiddy' area because you aren't going to leave the kid area. Also remind dh that when you took ss he had all the attention on him and you did what he wanted. Now it is your bios turn to have the attention on them and do what they want without having to share that time with ss.
Please don't take him. I went
Please don't take him. I went to Disney World in Florida (I think that's what it was...it was definately in Florida, and we also went to Sea World and the beach). Anyway, my brother was 4 1/2 years younger than me, and a toddler at the time. It was SUCH a drag! I was too big to get on the rides he could go on, and of course he wasn't old enough to understand the whole waiting in line to go on or see things I wanted to see. So it was pretty much toddlerville all day. I'd rather my Grandparents had taken me seperately when we could have fun at my age level.