And do all the things for him that he should be doing.
SO is a good father, but he needs to learn how to play the game, BM is playing it flawlessly. He needs to start thinking like a manipulative female.

SO and BM had mediation today and it did not go well. He wanted to go in there and discuss changing the parenting schedule...which I TOLD him was a bad idea. They are court ordered to 5 mediation sessions to work on their communication, NOT hash out issues that they can talk about it private. His current schedule is Every Sunday overnight, every other friday overnight and the alternating fridays from 5pm-9pm. He wanted to discuss with her changing it to every sunday overnight and every other MONDAY overnight, with alternating mondays 5pm-9pm. Its more conveinent for eveeryone, less shuttling back and forth and having SD 2 nights in a row would lend some stability to the situation. Plus, he could go back to working Friday nights (which in the bar industry is kind of a big thing)... I understand the logic, you all probably understand the logic and I KNOW BM and the mediator understand the logic..but no.

I TOLD him not to go in there and talk about convenience. I TOLD him that no matter what he said it ALWAYS had to be from the viewpoint of whats best for SD. He will NEVER learn how to communicate properly in this system.

He got his ass handed to him by the mediator while BM just sat there all smirks and glee. Mediator tells him that this has nothing to do with what works best for him and it is NOT in SDs best interest in be away from her "mother" 48 consecutive hours...umm ok?

I just hate how BM can sit there all teary eyed like "im trying to get along and be flexible with him but he wants to make this difficult"....The mediator flat out told him that either he can go with what BM proposes or he can take her to court and go with what the judge proposes.

SOOOOOOOOO sick of the bias against fathers in MI courts...absolute bullshit.