And so it ends (and begins)
Well, it was nice while it lasted. A week with minimal work and no SS12. But now it's back to real life. BM is dropping him off later this afternoon. DH is already getting moody because he's got a list of stuff he's going to have to address. (Last weekend he found clean and dirty clothing stuffed in a bathroom cabinet, empty drink cans hidden in a dresser drawer along with food wrappers, endless junk under the bed when he'd been told to clean it out.)
I get it. DH gets tired of being the bad guy. SS spent a week at Disney (the real one in FL -- not a code word for BM's) and now he's coming to our house where he'll be in trouble. DH is tired of feeling like SS is pulling away. Again, I get it. But if the little prince doesn't want to be in trouble, maybe he should start following the very simple rules we set.
Anyway, I feel sad. It's always more stressful with him around. Even with my dog. I feel like I have to be on constant alert that SS doesn't hold onto him or hug him or restrain him (the only way Dog will spend any time with him.) It's maddening. Part of me is waiting for the day he decides he wants to live with BM, but I know that will hurt DH.
*sigh*
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Ugh. So sorry.
I felt this to my core. When my SD12 is here I feel the life drain out of me. We have the same issues with her literally living in fifth and trashing everything she touches in our home.
My DH will hound her constantly but doesn't do the best with following through on the accountability and discipline if the messes aren't cleaned up.
DH is currently sitting out in the living room with SD before her mom comes to pick her up playing games with her while her room is a disaster although she was given the task to go through all her stuff and bring down bags of toys and clothes to get rid of (that was the deal since she's talking about wanting to re-do her room.) Odds are she'll do a half ass job slightly cleaning up, DH will go do the rest and never hold her accountable and she will STILL get her room re-done. *eyeroll*
Sorry yours is on the way over, luckily mine is on the way out (until Tuesday at least.) *Sigh*
DH is the bio parent.
He's is the BAD guy. Either SS runs a muck , controls the home. Or DH parents him I.E. bad guy. SS must understand there are two different houses, two different sets of rules.
Oh I feel you. I have stopped
Oh I feel you. I have stopped cleaning the skids rooms. They are 9 and 11 now. I told them.. if their clothes don't make the hamper it won't be washed. SD is dirty and folds her dirty clothes back into her drawer leaving the hamper empty.. and SS is opposite and touches a t-shirt and it's in the hamper.
DH is in charge of following up on their rooms but he is slack sometimes. I dread the skids over as SD tests me with her annoying personality (she can be nice but becomes overbearing.. she knows it annoys me and ramps it up 100% to get a reaction from me) and SS can be a complete jerk.
I feel instead of my dog it's my DD3 I protect. SD doesn't want to play nice with her (colour in, puzzles, watch her shows) but do things that annoy the sh*t out of me with her as it causes DD to be hyped up and silly.
Omg yes SD13s room is
Omg yes SD13s room is disgusting. There is a difference between messy vs. gross. DH has taught SD13 how to use the washing machine. She would rather just fold up dirty clothes and keep wearing them over and over again. I have no clue what she does for underwear! Wears dirty pairs? None at all? Disgusting. The moldy food & dishes and where I drew the line. I told DH she is no longer welcome to use the dishes. She gets paper plates. End of story.