So on the way home last night with my kids and my skids in the car we bring up how old everyone is getting and how the years are going by so fast. I said to the oldest skid that you will need to make sure to keep in touch in when you go to college...he's only 13 so we have a lot of years until we have to go down that road.The skid argreed and then the youngest skid said well that will be in three years that he will be out of my house. I didn't say anything and told my husband what the youngest skid said. So my husband went up to the oldest skid and asked what they think life will be like at 16.the skid said I will have a car and maybe a job. My husband said BM said you don't have to come here anymore? They said yes that she had said that. My husband asked does it seem like BM is trying to make you hate it at our house and they said yes. She is only keeping the kids because she know's my husband wants them.We want full custody of the skids, right now she has placement with them during school. One of the kids anger issues has gotten worse since living with BM. My question is, should we start family therapy first and see if they see how brain washed they are into hating us...or do courts not look at that?