It was BM. She was convinced that her MARRIED boyfriend would leave his wife and they would ride off into the sunset together. LOL! After that didn't work out, she figured that she'd ride it out until the child support went away, and then take DH back. I guess I screwed that up for her! She actually had the balls to ask for another year of child support when their youngest turned 18.

It was DH who wanted the divorce after he came home from work and picking the boys up from daycare(she didn't work either just didn't want to watch her kids) and he walked in on her F*@#ing one of her friends!!!! Can't really blame him!!!! the weird thing is she is ugly i mean she looks like a hairy troll doll and she had all kinds of men sleeping with her while he was at work!!! WTF!!!! DH took the boys and was leaving and she said " fine leave and take those F@#*ing little bastards with you" What kind of mother says that!!????

It was BM's decision. She was having an affair, divorced BF, then married the guy she had the affair with, when that didn't work out she wanted BF back.......turns out it wasn't as easy as she thought it was going to be to get "her family" back together again.

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“The challenge is to help couples turn "I Do" into "We Can."

In our case it was the BM. In fact she told BF about 2 yrs into their 12 yr marriage that she thought it might have been a mistake. The grass was always going to be greener for her and so far it has been, she doesnt work, is trying to get disability at the age of 40 for no reason other than she "has a hard time holding down a job", has had a gastric lap band with the BF's retirement she got in the divorce and lost so much weight she's had a boob job and a tummy tuck on state medical! Hmmmm.....yep I'd say life is good. (sarcasm ooozing here;)) And the worst?? She's teaching the SD13 how to be irresponsible, blame everyone else for your problems, etc...sorry not the place for this..got carried away!!

My husband and I both initiated our divorces. Our x's are both bitter. My x will send me e-mails every so often that are nice and friendly and then out of the blue, he will send terribly disturbing and nasty e-mails.

My husband's x uses the kids in the form of emotional blackmail to hurt him. She won't give him one second more with them than is outlined in their CO. She signs them up for activities that encroach on his time and expects him to just be a taxi service for them rather than to have quality time with them. Of course he could say that they cannot attend during his time, but then that would upset the kids.

In our case, BM left DH and wanted a divorce. But DH was actually the one to file for divorce. BM doesn't try to make our life hell on a regular basis, but you can definitely tell that she is jealous of how good DH's life turned out.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

BM wanted a divorce. She had an affair. That relationship lasted six months and she wanted FH back. I started dating FH almost three years after the divorce and she was absolutely livid, pissed, and border-line psychotic when she found out that we were dating.

**my stepdaughters did not grow in my tummy, they grew in my heart**

Our BM wanted the divorce. She moved out. She was having an affair. Hence...my DH still worshiping her...I dont think he has ever gotten over it.

"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."

I filed for divorce.

The divorce class I took said the majority of women file for divorce these days.
I don't remember by what %.

BM had an affair, then filed for divorce when she got caught.

I totally agree with Crayon: "Usually it doesn't matter who does the divorcing. . .what DOES matter is when the biofather decides to move on. Then the hell starts."

Started dating DH - 1st stage of hell
Moved in together - 2nd stage of hell
Got engaged - 3rd stage of hell
Got married - 4th stage of hell
Got pregnant - 5th stage of hell
Had a baby - 6th stage of hell
Got pregnant again - 7th stage of hell
Had another baby - 8th stage of hell
Just how many stages of hell are there exactly!!! LOL

DH left BM.

And why wouldn't he? 5 yrs of no intimate times....KWIM. Sleeping in different rooms, fighting all the time. Yep, he bailed.

And I'm so very glad that he did.

I also left my x, when he was caught cheating on me I bailed. I'm so very glad I did!

BM filed but when DH moved on with me, it was "you left US." Typical victim BS.

DH filed for divorce because UberSkank was dating other men and telling them she was separated. That is her MO. When DH met her she told him she was legally separated from her husband and had filed for divorce.

Found out soon afterwards none of that was true and she was living with her husband #1 still. DH feels all the trouble he's seen is because of Karma. He said he's getting what he deserves after staying with a woman that was still married to someone else.

“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Michael Caine

My XW left me to run off with her geriatric Fortune 500 executive sugar daddy that she met while giving him sponge baths in her post surgical rotation in nursing school that I paid for.

My beautiful Wife never married my Son's (SS) BioDad (SpermZilla)which is the only good decision my In Laws have made in the past 35+ years. They told her that if she married him she would loose her VA benefits from her own BioDad who was killed while in the Army when my MIL was a few weeks pregnant with my wife.

My Wife booted SpermZilla when she caught him cheating on her for the third time during her pregnancy and the first 12mos after our Son (my SS) was born.

For the first 10 yrs after we married SpermZilla would pull the "does you Mom still love me?" crap with my SS and would call periodically to pull the "you were the best thing that every happened to me and I screwed up!!! I want you, (the Skid) and I to be a family again.....". My Wife relishes in laughing her ass off directly to him every time he calls with the idiot bullshit. If he was so interested in being a Dad and marrying my wife he would not be on the incessant quest to improve his statutory rapist resume by impregnating every available womb in the Pacific NorthWest. My SS is the oldest of his four out-of-wedlock spawn by three different mothers (two who were under age when the kids were born).

The most pathetic thing about SpermZilla is that his mother (SpermTroll/SpermGrandMa) pays his CS on my Son and #2 (until mother #2 dumped the kid on SpermTroll's door step) and now raises #2, #3 and #4 in her home while SpermZilla lives rent free in SpermTroll and SpermGrandPa's rental property.

No wonder my Skid can't keep his head out of his ass academically and no wonder the other out-of-wedlock spawn are destined to be welfare royalty like most of the rest of the SpermClan.

Best regards,

Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)

Bm cheaper years ago but that slowly eroded the marriage. FH would have left her years ago but felt very trapped. Finally he got the balls to leave. BM wanted him back and still does, so she blames me for all her woes. FH hates her with a passion and wouldn't spit to put her out of she was on fire.