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The exhausting morning for a mom of 4.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 8:13am

https://www.yahoo.com/gma/mother-4-shares-exhausting-reality-she-does-9-...

So, has anyone read the "exhausting" morning routine of a mother of 4? Her kids are 12, 11, 7 and 3. She is exhausted from waking them up... making all the beds... getting them dressed..feeding them breakfast.. driving to school and then going back to bring forgotten things and then getting her younger kids on the bus.

I am thinking.. gahhhh! Lady,YOU have made your morning 10x more difficult than it has to be.

At least TWO of your kids should be getting up on their own. 12 and 11. Yep.. alarm clocks, cell alarms.. whatever, they should be self sufficient on that front. Oh.. and all but the 3yo should be able to make their own beds. If you have to prompt a wakeup or a bed make... so be it..that should take all of 2 seconds to say"get up" or "make your bed".

Then the matter of two trips to schools because your kids forget things. You do know if they were made to ever face the consequences of a forgotten gym short then they would perhaps learn to be more organized right?

Oh.. and then getting two other kids on the bus... don't know why you don't make it easier and make ALL your kids ride the bus. Why older kids need to be driven (maybe private school doesn't offer that service???) I'm not entirely sure. But certainly no need for TWO trips. Maybe even organizing your kid's school stuff the night before if mornings are too hectic.

Yeah.. and getting kids dressed. Again, a little forethought would help. You say that one kid got themselves dressed in something inappropriate? Why does your kid even have inappropriate clothing? Did you just disney mom yourself into giving in and buying it because they whined?

Oh. yeah.. and she had to flush three toilets because 3 of her kids didn't do it? WHAT??? You can't blame this on your EX lady.. you have 100% created these kids and raised them with your DH.. why don't they flush? at 11 and 12?

Yeah.. and having to turn off the TV.. ya think maybe your kids don't need that distraction in the AM.. you don't either honey. Turn off lights they leave on.. and dismantling pillow forts... yeah.. again.. things your kids should be doing On.Their.Own.

I mean, I get it 4 kids.. that's a lot but you made them. You wanted this life. You have the chance to make them independent kids.. but you are doing it all for them. Imagine the embarrassment when your older girl is at her sleepovers and she leaves a log floating for her friends to find? Great momming there!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 8:42am

Yep. I agree. What was that about a mother's job is not to make a kid dependent on her? Gone by the wayside today, I see.

I also notice that moms today refuse to say "no" to their kids with consequences. They either run around all day trying to keep Junior from getting into stuff, or they meaninglessly say "no" and because there is no consequence, the kid just keeps on doing what he's not supposed to--all adult voices become "adult noise."

Same thing with having to repeat yourself after a kid says "Whaaa?" when you've told him/her something to do. In my day our ears were PERKED for an adult voice.

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Submitted by Gentry on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 8:44am

She needs to make each kid set their clothes out the night before and have them premake their lunches like the rest of us. I have 2 and our mornings are smooth. We get up, dressed, and eat, we all shower at night. After everything is by the door and teeth and hair are brushed they can watch tv. It's really not that hard unless you want it to be.

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Submitted by HappyCow on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 8:57am

"It's not that hard unless you want it to be" I couldn't agree more. My job is to make sure my kid can function in life without me. So many Mom's out there really want their kids to be dependent on them and make sure their little angels never have to do anything that would make them self sufficient. Mom's like this then get to be the martyr who gives everything for their families.

I have a neighbor who wakes up her three kids for school every morning-a sophomore in high school, a senior in high school, and her son who is a sophomore in college!!

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Submitted by I love dogs on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 9:19am

This is our BM. She needs to feel needed so I'm sure this is her morning with SD12. I stopped reading after finding out their ages and that she makes FIVE beds in the morning. Just no.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 9:23am

the "flushing the toilet 3x" got me. Only ONE of your kids gets a pass on that duty mom. and.. with an 11 and 12 yo.. neither of them can feed your dog. smdh.

Can you imagine this lady as someone's BM. MOTY would not be a grand enough title for her.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 9:29am

My son just turned 10. I wake him before I leave, however most mornings he is already up when I leave by 7am. He makes his own breakfast gets himself ready picks out his own clothes. He puts our dog in her cage before he leaves for the bus stop at 8:45.

Why would you not want your kids to be self reluant???

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 9:49am

:jawdrop: stop posting good mother's like this stories, I might just go and sit in a corner and eat worms..

All of her kids are old enough to wake up with alarm clocks, all of those kids are old enough to get themselves ready for school, I might only help the 3 year old but the rest.. nah old enough..

those kids are old enough to ensure their school bags are packed the night before (hell all Martians are bad parents, it's a standard rule in our houses) if you did not pack then sorry you take the consequences for it..no one will bring it to you...

if they do not make their own beds... who cares, I'm not sleeping in the bed... and all 4 kids will know how to flush a toilet... we do not have school transport on Mars, thus all 4 will get into the car at once and be dropped off at school, sorry if you are not dressed on time, you will get dropped of in your PJ's or naked.. not caring, you have the rules and the routine.. do not mess with me..

The oldest one is already old enough to make coffee for mummy to keep her in a good mood...

now that's how it's done in my house Wink

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 9:58am

I agree... I don't know when it became tantamount to child abuse to make kids responsible for things or adhere to rules or have something not be 100% kidcentric.

My MIL would sometimes do a bit of pearl clutching when she learned we expected the kids to help with things around the house.. or the fact that they had to ask to get snacks..or had to share a room. I had no idea that someone would think that stuff was child abuse. She said she did "everything" for her boys (and now the grandkids)... then again, she is also the same lady that said she didn't even worry or care that her son might not have heat in his house when he moved out at 18? :?

It's like a switch doesn't flip on that day.. you baby them right up until that then pull the rug? THAT seems more cruel.

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Submitted by Pharlap on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 10:59am

LMFAO have you guys gone onto her website?? The queen of woe is me and I'm a mother and it's hard but so worth it!! Is she divorced? I feel so bad for the potential step mom if she is.

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Submitted by WagiMorri on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 11:01am

What is with this culture of: "The more exhausted and busy you are, the more important and fulfilled your life is"?

I'm having to break free from that myself!

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Submitted by still learning on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 11:24am

Why isn't Dad chipping in to help the kids get things ready the night before? How come it's all on mom? Agree that all the kids can lay things out and get supplies ready the night before. Even a 3 yr old can flush the freaking toilet! She's bringing a lot of this angst upon herself by helicoptering and being unorganized.

**mom of 5 here.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 11:40am

SD24 is constantly whining about how EXHAUSTED she is, caring for her 2 kids. The oldest is in Kindergarten and the youngest is 1.5yo. And she is a SAHM. What sucks for her? Why, she can't go out and party on weeknights!! She is a night owl who has to get up and get her extremely self-sufficient 5stb6yo off to school (he has been choosing his own clothes for 2 YEARS now!!). But she can't go back to bed because the 1.5yo is awake. Suck it up and deal with life, Wendy Whiner. You CHOSE to have those children and now you have to adult. Boo-fackin-hoo.

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Submitted by skatermom on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 3:06pm

This is hilarious. I get 5 kids up and it's nowhere near as dramatic as this. BD16, BD12 and BD12 get up and ready on their own, go out to the bus stop in front of the house and i wake up SDs9 and yell out time updates until the bus comes, "20 minutes", "10 minutes", go out now!. Then I get in my car and drive off to work, whoopie do.

No one is building blanket forts or climbing trees in the morning.

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Submitted by I love dogs on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 3:23pm

Ok I didn't read the whole article but those kids can build blanket forts but can't make their own beds??

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 3:40pm

The article didn't mention anything about blanket forts. Smile

However, it's pretty darn sad that she is making beds for children who are old enough to do so themselves. That's all on her and she is creating her own chaos and feeling of exhaustion.

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 3:47pm

This just reads as "I am incapable of multi-tasking or planning ahead, even after four children this is not a skill set I posses...so rather than admit that or accept this and work on having my husband help out more, I am going to come on Facebook to whine so you the viewer will think I am somehow way more bogged down by life than you are!"

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 09/28/2017 - 7:13am

Advice.only, I read the title and came away with the same conclusion before I read the article! LOL

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 4:04pm

YSS stb 15--school hasn't even been in session for a month yet here. Six unexcused lates. Today he sauntered in at 10:01 a.m.!!! The Girhippo is too busy doing her "Mel's Diner" stint at the local casino to be bothered about this issue.

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Submitted by onwednesdayswew... on Wed, 09/27/2017 - 8:52pm

NOPE!! She has one kid to get ready.. the rest are plenty old enough to be out the door themselves. And F bedmaking on a school day.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Thu, 09/28/2017 - 1:39am

I am thinking now of the movie "Bad Moms"

When she decided the kids are old enough to do their own thing, and she stopped making breakfast and being maid for every one.... I did not find the movie funny at all, to me it's normal life on Mars, hell we do not coddle babies,
when you are old enough to walk, you are old enough to pick up your toys and keep your room clean, when you are old enough to use a potty you are old enough to clean it yourself and flush the big people toilet... everything this woman did on her strike is how I know it..

Never in my life did I make breakfast for school going kid, nah you know where the cereal is help yourself or starve..