I'm getting ready to move to a new place with my bf and 12 year old son. I have opened a collage fund and upped my life insurance. I'm worried about my stepson's grades in school cause they had dropped after his mother abandoned him and his dad. I feel he should be back on track now. But his father is still making exscuses for him. I don't want to be mean but I don't want the kid to miss out on collage and sports. What can I do to make my stepson understand I am just trying to help him so his future is a good one?