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I deleted the most recent post about this topic because we've gotten a little further or actually hit a road block.

Before I get told this isn't my business let me remind you that me and my partner act as a unit. That I am more than happy to support him and his kids to the best of my ability. Telling me this doesn't concern me will be ignored.

SO confronted BM about the fact that she repeatedly ignored his request to know the the doctor visit went but that she's plastering all over the place about how the poor kid needs therapy.

BM is blocked.

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I had not blocked BM from my Facebook until today. I'm not friends with her either but yeah.

Anyways I made a general comment on my page. Yes it was stepparent related and yes was partly because of her but also because I have a lot of coworkers and friends who are going through the same issue.

She decided to screen shot it and plaster it all over her page. To which I received messages from her friends that were of course not nice.

Problem solved she's blocked. Yes she could still find ways around but the relief of this action alone is enough.

Why he's amazing.

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Anyone have an issue if I start a "why he's amazing" post for us to brag a little bit about our partners.
I mean there's got to be some reason we stay and put up with BM drama and possible devil Skids.

Mine is amazing because he's always got my back.
For example in all the craziness of this morning I walked off and left my wallet so no money for lunch.

SO not only brought it to me but stopped on the way to pick up food for me.

So yeah he's amazing.

Lawyer going to court?

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Question for those of you who have been there.

The paperwork is basically done and now just needs filed If I understand correctly.

I remember from my divorce there was an actual court date but since we weren't fighting and I agreed with everything in the paperwork it was basicly a formality. I didn't have to be there at all.

Now SO is pretty much doing the same. He's agreed to the CO and it's all good. He's waving any sort of appearance in court BUT the lawyer says that he still needs to go. Not my partner but the lawyer.

Bring on the phone calls.

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Well after checking on more time SO now has an app that will instantly record any phone calls. He can also alter it to exclude people or limit to certain people.

SO next time BM calls with a verbal threat that she refuses to send through the app or text "because then you'll still have your written proof," it won't matter.

Again in our state only one party needs to know the recording is happening.

We tested it out. I called him. I didn't hear anything that would give away I was being recorded and it was clear when we listened to it.

Back to controlling.

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So I don't know if this is so much asking for advice or more just to vent but here it goes.

For a little while now SO and BM have actually had some progress when it comes to co-parenting. We had inklings that there was some manipulations behind close doors on her end BUT in the public eye and what could be documented things were improving.

I hate her

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I hate my partner's ex. I know all of us here can say that and I could go on and on about all the typical reasons why but here's the main one.

My partner doesn't know how to be selfish.

Funny right? Selfishness is a bad thing right? Maybe selfish isn't the right word. Maybe I should say he doesn't know how to put himself first. EVER.

I mean he's a parent so I guess many would say he shouldn't. Of course the kids needs come first. He's my boyfriend so of course he puts me first, right?

Our kids vs his kids

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Let me start with the fact that I have no biological or adopted children of my own.

This site has introduced me to many different ideas and possibilities that have led to much needed conversations with my partner. Now I know he can say one thing today and act very different years down the road BUT to know we are on the same page now really helps.

Sending things to the other home?

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How do you handle the kids taking things from one home to another.

At the start SO had nothing for the children. Slowly we've gotten enough that they plenty of things to play with. With Christmas coming they need to clean out some of their toys.

Now some stuff was bought extremely cheap just so they had something to play with it while other things were more carefully picked out for birthday and Christmas gifts. They have also somehow collected more than a life time collection of stuffed animals.

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