My ss9 just got suspended from the bus for 3 days because he cant seem to keep his hands to himself and wants to bad mouth the bus driver. Comes home get's punished I go through his school agenda and come to find out that on monday he stole something from another kid in school. So i got pissed cause bf never told me a thing about what was going on I though he was punished on monday for stealing money from my son's wallet. I told bf that is not fare that he keeps me from what's going on with ss because it concerns this entire house hold but he never listens to me. Instead this morning he decides to praise him and take him out his punishment and take him outside for a walk and never said a word to me as he was walking out the door i didn't even know where they where going. so because I text him and get on his case about his poor parenting skills and i tell him that i'm sick of being the wicked stepmom he texts me back that all he did was take him for a walk and that I was over reacting. I dont think i'm over reacting or am I? That's not the point that he took him for a walk the point is that if everytime this child gets in trouble he chooses to praise him one way or another because he feels guilty about the kids mom leaving him. So I got dressed and told my son to get ready and when they got back we left. I went to my niece's house and we all went to the movies with her kids. when I got back he was furious and started yelling at me claiming that I'm not suppost to walk out the door without telling him. He start accusing me because he happened to take my laptop when I left and a friend request popped in the screen from a share bear account that I opened to download music. I never thought people would be able to get my info and start sending me friend requests without even knowing who I am for crying out load there's not even a pic of me in my profile and I clearly remember putting an x on only share info with friends that I know. He thinks that i'm cheating or that I'm looking for men on line because of this stupid friend request that popped up on my screen..and I know he wasn't just using my laptop he took it to spy and look for shit on it to see if he could catch me doing something on line. I dont know why he doesn't trust me well he has a trust issue coming back from his wife of 10yrs cheating on him, but why do I have to pay for her broken dishes. I tried to explain to him that I dont be answering those friend requests and that I only opened the account to download music but he doesn't believe me. shit he even has an account with share bear himself but he claims that he has never gotten any friend requests because he hasn't ask for any. How do I get him to believe me. I dont even work cause he is not comfortable with me being out his site....I dont know what else to do. so everytime I tried to explain he laughed in my face and said yeah right and i'm bubu the fool. He also said that he thinks that his son's misbehavior has to do with what's going on in the house, mind you this child has been acting the same way ever since his mama left and I wasn't even in the pic till a year ago all of the sudden is my fault that the kid doesnt behave. since we were just friends I remember him coming into my grocery store and telling me that his son was suspended from school and he would repeat again, as he did it constantly. So his big words to me where I think we should break up because we are not agreeing on parenting...he's even sleeping in the living room....which aint knew to me he spends atleast 20 out of 24 hrs of the day on his computer in the living room when he's not working but i'm suppost to be the one cheating. I practicly live in my room doing nothing all day when the kids r in school I only drop my kids off at school and pick them up and once a month if that when things get too hectic and I want to vent I leave with my kids and either we go to the movies or to my niece's house and all he can do is acuse me of cheating....if that's what he wants to do is break up because he can't discipline his son then fine I guess it is more then what I bargained for I dont need the stress in my life my kids are all grown and they dont give me problems. I told him I would look for a place to go and I would leave with my kids cause I cant afford to keep this apartment, after all he's the one that pays the bills and he threw that right in face as soon as he had the chance to..I just hope he makes the right decision cause once I walk out that door I aint coming back..