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Poo, MIL and Facebook

Countrymom's picture

I picked up SS6 from school yesterday, as I do almost every Monday. He slept on the way home (about a 25 minute drive), which is nice since he usually talks nonstop. When I arrive home I have to get my bios and directly leave to make it to BD12 softball practice. We get back into the car and a strong odor of poo emits from my vehicle, grr. I didn’t have time to worry about it, so get to practice where DH is waiting and told him to check SS. Yes, he crapped his pants, AGAIN, while he was at school. He is one of these skids that crap their pants ever so often for no reason and also still wets the bed almost nightly. There is no medical reasons for this either. I’m sooo tired of it!

Then while BD12 is at practice, myself, BD7, DH, SS and MIL go to eat. SS is an unruly pain as usual. He asks MIL several times if he can ride with her to his practice that they were to go to after we ate. She told him no each time due to his behavior. We are in the parking lot going to our respective cars and lo and behold, MIL has SS get in her car to take him to practice! I don’t understand why people even tell a child no if they are not going to follow through! What is the point?! It just teaches them that it doesn’t matter what you say! I kept my mouth shut because it did not involve me or my bios, but it did irk the crap out of me!

And my last vent for today…Facebook! I have a love hate relationship with it! I actually didn’t log in for a couple months after Christmas due to MIL’s crap. I post pics of my bio’s quite a bit and some of SS too occasionally, depending on what’s going on. But yes, I post more about my kids. Well MIL makes the snarky comment of how “she would like to see pictures of SS occasionally!” after I had posted a couple of my bios. And the most recent one was a picture that said, “True or False? If you marry someone who already has kids from a previous relationship, those kids are now your kids and should be treated as such” 13 comments and 12 said it's true. Only one said depends on the situation. I wanted so bad to put in my two cents but knew it would be best to keep my mouth shut, as I seem to have to do a lot in my life lately, which is not easy for me! Ugh, steplife!!

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kathc's picture

I HATE those people. No, they're NOT YOUR KIDS BECAUSE YOU MARRIED THEIR FATHER. your MIL can suck an egg. Maybe next time she snarks about wanting to see a pic of SS respond "gee, you should ask DH to post a pic of his son for you!"

Countrymom's picture

Exactly, just because I married his dad does not make me his mother! He has a mother already! It might be different if she wasn't in the picture, but they have 50/50. And DH doesn't have a Facebook, he's managed to stay away from it unlike me!

Countrymom's picture

True, I did unfollow her for awhile for these type of reasons. Guess I need to do it again!

DaizyDuke's picture

So your SS sat at practice and in MILs car with poo pants? Or does your DH carry around a change of clothes for him since he does this often?

Unfriend MIL. That's what I did my mine ramped up the foolishness. Sick of her crap. Don't need her annoying comments and such, so *poof* gone. Sure, she complained to DH about it, but he could care less and neither can I...whatever.. my FB, I'll be friends with who I choose.

Countrymom's picture

No, when I told DH to check his pants when I arrived at BD12 practice, he took him to the store and cleaned him up before we went anywhere else.

Totalybogus's picture

Why doesn't she ask his mother for pictures then if she can't get them from DH since he doesn't have an account?

Teas83's picture

In-laws can be so annoying when it comes to step situations. In my opinion, it is my husband's job to facilitate the relationship between his children and his parents, just like it's my job to facilitate the relationship between my kids and my parents.

Obviously you're going to post more things about your own kids on Facebook than you're going to post about your step kids, especially since he has a mother and you only see him half the time. Your MIL sounds like a piece of work.

momjeans's picture

OP, I think we have the same MIL.

I'm happy to hear you didn't respond - she's baiting you. You should have "liked" it, though, just to confuse the eff out of her.

Mine would post passive-aggressive status updates and memes such as this. Things she was too chicken to say in my presence. I grew tired of it. I unfollowed her and eventually defriended her. I've ignored her friend requests. She VERY rarely ever shared pictures of our two bio kids, anyway. Only SK, SK with DH, and my BIL's kid. The few times she did, so many of her friends responded "Whose kids are these?" It was quite humorous.

Avoid her foolishness and block her.

Countrymom's picture

Totally- MIL has said since I've known her that she can't stand BM, for many reasons, main one being she cheated on DH. But as I've found out recently MIL has friended BM on Facebook, so I guess that might be her plan now!

Teas- Yes, MIL is a piece of work. I could say many things, and probably will as time goes on!

Momjeans- I do believe you are right, as soon as I read it I knew it was directed towards me and she wanted a reaction. I'm trying to keep the peace for now though. And she also shows preference for SS over my bios, which is understandable, but yet she expects me to treat SS as if he was mine! I'm glad DH and I don't have an ours kid for several reasons, but one is that I really don't think I could handle her preference for SS over our bio together!

oneoffour's picture

If my MIL had made some pissy remark about seeing more photos of my ssons I would have said "Great idea! Buy a camera!"