Hi all I have been using steptalk just as a reading tool for a few weeks now to help me keep from going insane. Just realising that there are so many out there feeling and experiencing the same tumultous emotions that I do is comforting to say the least..... I'm not insane I'm normal!! So here goes.

I have been with my SO for about 2 years. We moved in together about a year ago. He has 4 kids 3 bio's and one step daughter that he still has 50% care of. I have 4 BIO kids. We have 6 of the 8 kids 50% of the time and 2 of my bio's 100% of the time. The issues I am having are with SO step daughter who is 16 and the most emotionally needy girl I have EVER met. She gets angry if we go out and aren't back at whatever time she deems acceptable, she does not lift a finger in the house (despite her Dad recently telling her that she now has "adult" status because she is working and about to leave high school). She walks into the lounge room demanding use of the tv at certain times and proceeds to yell at the other kids to "shut the F**k up" if they aren't quiet. She gets more emotional support from her father and the entire community because she has run around for the last 8 years of her life crying that her relationship with her mum is abusive. My SO is supportive of her in this, thus creating a really warped dynamic between BM my SO and BM's bio daughter. The girl would rather live with her father than her mother supposedly (so she bleats) but then when it came time for us to get some sort of financial assistance to help raise this spoilt bitch she signed the whole lot over to her mother because "mum says she wont be able to feed me or pay for the house if I don't". Her mum only has her half time. We have purchased her school computer, provided her with pocket money, buy her school clothes - her BM provides her with a bed. There is no running hot water, no shower and no electricity. We provide all of the normal conveniences to this girl while her useless mother does nothing.

I am so resentful by now because I have worked my ass off beside my SO over the last year or so as we are trying to complete building a house. Guess what I have to confer with the SD on paint colours etc as she really wants to be involved. Her room also gets completed before all others. Before I became super resentful I used to speak with my SO about SD and the fact she is too big for her boots and is playing everyone off against each other, he can't see it. In fact he treats his kids (all of them) like they walk on fucking water and because mine misbehave or be lazy they get their pocket money taken off them, their computer and screen rights taken away for months at a time. SO's bio-son 13 is a liar, theif and one of the biggest passive aggressive bullies I've come into contact with, but his Dad always says to him "tell me your side of the story" the kid does lies his ass off and SO believes him end of story. SO has said to me he thinks his kids are just great they are perfect! Yet has no problem turning around and yelling at my kids because they haven't immediately done as they are told or something else similarly childlike. Yet SS 13 can steal money, tobacco etc get caught smoking be disrespectful at school and at home and that's ok. SD 16 just has to ask "Daddy" I need such and such, or can I just sit on my arse in my room for days at a time watching videos and eating and it's all ok. I'm always told that he hasn't got enough cash to take me out for a meal despite the fact that I support him when he's at work taking care of his kids, wash cook clean, barely spend anytime with my own extended family or friends anymore because there are eight fucking kids to look after. Sorry this is so long but I am so angry by now and hurt and resentful of him and his blind stupidity that I wish I could walk up and head butt him.