I've been doing this step mom thing for 3 years and I've been married for 2, after 3 miscarriages, my husband and I are now 25 weeks with our first daughter together. Long story short, my SD wants to be involved in EVERYTHING. While I'm respectful to them, wash their clothes, make them food, etc, we are not close and I do not enjoy their company so you can imagine her wanting to be at the freaking birth AND my baby shower really puts a damper on my mood. My husband has yet to tell her no to these things and it is so frustrating.