So I decided to down play some of my feelings for SS15...we had an altercation about 3 weeks ago with the usual petty white lies. We had a heart to heart and in the end we (myself, DH and SS15) decided to have a 30 day challenge...we each decided to do something that would qualify as positive time or positive reflection for SS. SS challenged himself to stop telling "half truths" and take stronger interest in completing school work, stop stealing and so on...well 2 weeks later here we are with the same old shitty behavior....and that of course is just how long it took me to realize the behavior hadn't truly stopped. I really do throw my hands in the air at this point...so many chances have come and gone, so much forgiveness has been warranted but frankly this is now a true house divided...I can't stand this child and want nothing to do with him. I really don't understand how someone can continue such behavior and turn it on and off the way he does...he's too old for us to make any justification or excuses and he's lived with us too long to misunderstand what our expectations are. I'm so disgusted with him and the BM that she's too selfish to get herself together for him to be with her or even take an active role while he's not.