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OT Does anyone have any suggestions on how to help get a 3 1/2 month old baby to sleep better through the night?

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Submitted by bjc26 on Wed, 04/11/2012 - 12:45pm

My three month old slept for 10 hours straight for a whole week about three weeks ago so I thought we were headed in the right direction for getting her to sleep through the night ALL the time. But now she's switched gears and is waking up worse, sometimes three times a night and staying up for 2 hours at a time, than she was before she slept throught the night that one week.

If you love this man (or woman) enough to be with them and they have children....

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Submitted by bjc26 on Thu, 12/01/2011 - 5:55pm

If you love this man (or woman) enough to be with them and they have children, then is part of you supposed to love the kids because they are an extension of their parents? What about doing things for them or with them? I mean if they were your biological children wouldn't you have to do for them anyway? If that's the case then why is it that there's so many of us that resent our step kids because of the things we feel we shouldn't have to do for them because they aren't "our" kids?

Does anyone else ever come up against this??

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Submitted by bjc26 on Fri, 11/18/2011 - 4:48pm

My DH is very into hunting and he works really hard at his job and doesn't really get alot of "him" time. So when hunting season comes along he usually takes off and is gone most weekends all day long, and some weekdays. He does this because this is his "me" time. I'm okay with that to a point, but he never asks me if its okay that I stay with the skids. I don't mind watching them or being with them because the way I look at it is that if I was their BM I'd have to anyway but at the same time it's like he expects me to and never checks to see if I have anything going on.

Is it time to seek a shrink?

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Submitted by bjc26 on Tue, 11/08/2011 - 9:10am

MIL has been a wonderful person. Her heart is always in the right place even though she can be forgetful, an airhead and non-punctual at times. (Which are attributes that have always been a pet peeve of mine) If you've read some of my previous blogs my MIL has a "special bond" with my SD12 and my SS10. Quick overview is that she raised them for a time when their BM was getting in trouble for drugs and their dad was overseas in Iraq. Of the 8 grandchildren she has these two are her special ones. Now the problem isn't with my SD and my MIL. It's my SS and my MIL.

What do I do with these feelings?

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Submitted by bjc26 on Fri, 08/26/2011 - 10:13am

I haven't blogged on here in a while. Things have been going okay for a while, the skids and I have seemed to have found a rythm that we can all handle. However, I've wanted a child of my own for a very long time and I finally was granted that blessing, I'm 23 weeks pregnant now. The issue I'm having though is feeling like it was a mistake to have wanted to have a baby of my own. It's like I'm cheating everyone out of things they could have and experience. First off it took us a very long time to get into the house we're in now and it's a 3 bedroom two bath home.

Still have a REALLY hard time with my SS

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Submitted by bjc26 on Thu, 10/28/2010 - 6:01pm

My SS is nine and I've been part of his life for the last 3 years. In the beginning I liked the kid and grew to love him, however, somewhere along the way the love grew into resentment. It's not him really because he's a normal nine year old boy. Maybe a lot cottled by his grandmother but no matter how hard I've tried on that front the lady just doesn't get it nor will she back off. It's gotten so bad that I literally have a panic attack when I have to be alone with the boy. He's sweet and thoughtful and fights like normal with his sister.

Unloving

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Submitted by bjc26 on Mon, 04/12/2010 - 4:56pm

My MIL got onto me this weekend about not showing the skids enough love. She said that the skids came to her and told her that they didn't feel loved. She said that she told my H the same thing but when I bring it up to him he kinda acts like he doesn't know what I'm talking about. I used to be able to hug them and kiss them. Something has changed though and I'd just rather not be around them and I'm not sure why. Does or has anyone else ever had this sort of problem?

Snooping....legal or not?

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Submitted by bjc26 on Thu, 04/08/2010 - 4:17pm

Tuesday night on my way home from work I call my H. He informs me that he's taking the kids and they're going to his friends house to help him fix something. I said okay because I get to be by myself for the first time in a long time. I get home and I'm not sure what to do with myself. I notice that there's laundry that had been left so I thought I'd finish it. Well I went downstairs to make sure the kids didn't have any more dirty clothes. I pull some clothes out from between one skid's sheets only to find candy.

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Submitted by bjc26 on Mon, 04/05/2010 - 12:23pm

About a month ago we got family pictures. This last weekend we gave copies of the skid's pictures to their BM. We didn't include any with my H or me. When we dropped them off along with the skids this weekend, H told BM that if they wanted more pictures that he would get the website for them so they can order them. So he went back that afternoon to pick the skids up and BM told him she really wanted the website. But giving it some thought yesterday and today I'm not sure if I'm okay with this.

Who should be the one to give the talks?

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Submitted by bjc26 on Fri, 04/02/2010 - 10:33am

So my SD11 tends to have medical problems....not anything serious really. She just has a lot of nose bleeds, is anemic, and tends to get UTIs often. My DH doesn't do too well with these things. He doesn't do too well with much when it comes down to it. But about every week my SD will come to be and tell me that her "pee pee" or crotch hurts. I'll go through the series of questions of, "Does it hurt when you go to the bathroom?" "Is there any blood?" etc. This seems to be happening a lot lately. Last night she called me into the bathroom and told me that it was hurting again.

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