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Who should be the one to give the talks?

bjc26's picture

So my SD11 tends to have medical problems....not anything serious really. She just has a lot of nose bleeds, is anemic, and tends to get UTIs often. My DH doesn't do too well with these things. He doesn't do too well with much when it comes down to it. But about every week my SD will come to be and tell me that her "pee pee" or crotch hurts. I'll go through the series of questions of, "Does it hurt when you go to the bathroom?" "Is there any blood?" etc. This seems to be happening a lot lately. Last night she called me into the bathroom and told me that it was hurting again. I asked her the same set of questions. This time she said it was all red and that it had been hurting for a couple of days. I called the Doctor's office and it's closed today so I told my DH that I would call on Monday because it never seems to be a huge problem. Anyway, what I'm getting at is who should be the one to give the sex talk and at what age? The skids see their BM about every 3rd weekend for one day now and we're never really sure what is discussed between BM and the skids. My DH has said that it would like it if I could give her the talk and I'm not sure really how I feel about this. Any input would be great.

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stepmom008's picture

I think girls probably respond to "the talk" being given by a woman more so than a man. If they have questions about their cycle, it's easier to ask a woman not only for the embarrassment factor but for the fact that we know what happens then. Men could never talk intelligently about it.

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

JustAnotherSM's picture

I agree. I felt really uncomfortable talking to my dad about anything girl or sex related until... well, ok it's still wierd now, LOL. I am the oldest sibling and I had to have that talk with each of my younger sisters. It's not that bad, really. I learned some stuff in health class at school but that wasn't until about 1 year after I got my period. And it sounds like your SD really needs some help now. Good luck!